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by reckoner
Fri Apr 30, 2021 10:50 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: What should I make of this? Confused
Replies: 7
Views: 856

Re: What should I make of this? Confused

Welcome plum, just bumping this to the top.
by reckoner
Thu Apr 29, 2021 10:26 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Boyfriend thinks I'm a child.
Replies: 3
Views: 621

Re: Boyfriend thinks I'm a child.

I'm really glad if it was helpful. I think this relationship is an important stepping stone for you, best of luck. It would be great if you can update us at some point!
by reckoner
Wed Apr 28, 2021 9:13 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Hurtful comment.
Replies: 8
Views: 718

Re: Hurtful comment.

Are we looked at in a sense of “I love you, but I know there is someone out there bigger than you” or maybe “I wish you had a bit more” I think that's your insecurity talking to you there. I don't think that's what she's thinking or that you'd think it about a woman and her body. I'm sure she feels...
by reckoner
Tue Apr 27, 2021 10:22 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Hurtful comment.
Replies: 8
Views: 718

Re: Hurtful comment.

this has brought up all my old insecurities I think this is the key thing to remember: the size of your penis is (or has been) a problem for you, not for her. If it was a problem for her, I doubt she'd have said anything to you about her exes' penises - she'd have just finished with you by now, you...
by reckoner
Wed Apr 21, 2021 10:24 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Boyfriend thinks I'm a child.
Replies: 3
Views: 621

Re: Boyfriend thinks I'm a child.

I think you're absolutely right to see this as a giant red flag. It seems like a precise articulation of what sounds like a general attitude towards you of being his property. We've established something which is a first for me This experience should demonstrate to you that, contrary to what you've ...
by reckoner
Sat Apr 10, 2021 11:15 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Relationship help
Replies: 3
Views: 826

Re: Relationship help

I think the critical piece of information here is that he has bought a house. This is a valuable asset, worth hundreds of thousands of pounds, I assume. If he marries you, you will have a legal claim on this valuable asset should you split up, without you having contributed a penny. The risk is all ...
by reckoner
Mon Mar 29, 2021 1:24 pm
Forum: And the rest...
Topic: Fatherhood Dilemma
Replies: 3
Views: 1011

Re: Fatherhood Dilemma

Great advice from Snail. I had both my kids after turning 40 and got pregnant easily both times, so I can give you an idea of what a relationship might have to contend with in that scenario because compatibility is always important when choosing a partner but, if parenthood is your most important go...
by reckoner
Wed Mar 24, 2021 8:22 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Older woman at work, dream job I don’t want to mess up
Replies: 4
Views: 888

Re: Older woman at work, dream job I don’t want to mess up

Work crushes can be really intense. My theory is that people at work see your 'business' side, which partners at home don't usually see, and when things become more personal, with all that time together away from the humdrum tedium of life at home, it's easy for crushes to become pretty powerful. In...
by reckoner
Sat Nov 21, 2020 6:02 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Dating! How does this work again?!
Replies: 4
Views: 1219

Re: Dating! How does this work again?!

I’ve been very open with my uncertainty and finding the speed/intensity hard. You're not actually responsible for his feelings - being open and honest with him about yours is all you can do. That's great if he's also happy seeing how this goes. I have a feeling that his intensity and my lack of it ...
by reckoner
Sun Nov 15, 2020 9:15 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Dating! How does this work again?!
Replies: 4
Views: 1219

Re: Dating! How does this work again?!

Nice to see you again! I can’t work out if im just enjoying the novelty of being with someone or if I really like him. Ordinarily, I'd say that if you did really like him, you wouldn't be wondering, you'd know already. But you say "It could be the usual avoidant attachment style showing itself&...
by reckoner
Wed Nov 11, 2020 2:13 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Now What?
Replies: 8
Views: 1655

Re: Now What?

For the first time after i saw them in bed i took actions ... I blocked her and made sure we did not see each other. Yes, but then you wrote to her to say that you "loved her and wanted her", as if it's OK and you forgive her. Anyway, it's good if you know now that you don't feel that way...
by reckoner
Tue Nov 10, 2020 10:01 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Now What?
Replies: 8
Views: 1655

Re: Now What?

It's a very difficult time for you when you are worried about your child and have even less access to him/her than usual because of lockdown. But it's also an opportunity to distance yourself from the mother so that your relationship with her is to take care of your child only. Children need stabili...
by reckoner
Mon Sep 21, 2020 6:07 pm
Forum: Siblings
Topic: Sisters
Replies: 1
Views: 1958

Re: Sisters

I'm really sorry to hear of your mother's passing, that's a terrible loss. I still feel angry and don't think I'll ever forgive them for this. Your mother's death may not have been a surprise, but it's still a shock. You all knew the end was coming so you were prepared for the fact that she was dyin...
by reckoner
Tue Aug 11, 2020 11:53 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Still going on
Replies: 5
Views: 2234

Re: Still going on

he is thinking of you, and using any excuse to text you I agree. Lust, I think you should consider how the pattern of contact with this guy compares with a genuinely platonic friend: Do they contact you this frequently? Would you have met them through a dating app? Would you have had sexual relatio...
by reckoner
Fri Jul 17, 2020 11:30 am
Forum: Chit Chat
Topic: Anyone?
Replies: 7
Views: 3645

Re: Anyone?

You are quickly becoming my new PP best friend!! \:D/ I have an 11 year old boy who is starting secondary school in September (no idea how that happened!!) Seriously, where does the time go? One day, maybe we'll find 200 years down the back of the sofa. My eldest starts primary in September. At lea...