by Gem » Sun Apr 27, 2003 11:33 pm
At some point in our lives, just about everyone feels this way, it just seems that problems come one after the other. Apart from going back to your doctors and asking for help, you need to put things into perspective. You need to sort out one problem at a time as trying to do them all at once doesn't work.
Firstly, you need to set your mind on something like passing your exams at college, once you have done that, you can move on to another problem. Then, you need to remind yourself that what has happened in the past is the past, unfortunatly it can't be changed but you can move on from that to the future.
I know that that is easier said than done, believe me, I have things that I still dwell on but the more you look to the future, the easier things become.
Mental and physical abuse are both very hard things to overcome but, look how far you have come already.....you've come on here to ask for advice, that is the first major step that you need to take. It helps that you don't actually have to sit face to face with us and pour your heart out so, maybe if you posted how you feel about some of your problems, we could help you to overcome those feelings. You'd be surprised at the feedback you get when you post all of the nitty gritty stuff.
As for your boyfriend, if he's not going to be supportive towards you when it involves your past, he isn't worth being with. Have you tried talking to him about your feelings? It sounds like you're just being very cautious with him but he might be interpriting it in the wrong way.
If you have trouble sleeping, you should write everything thats bothering you down on some paper, leave it next to your bed and think to yourself that you will deal with it in the morning as you can't do anything about it tonight. You'll probably find that when you're getting more sleep, you'll be able to deal with things easier. As for actually getting to sleep, you should try deep breathing, as you are doing it, concentrate on listening to the sound of your breath coming in and going out. When you breeth deeply, it actually tricks your mind into thinking that you are calm.....honest.
Hope this is of some use to you, remember that there is always someone here who will listen and try to give advice, let us know how it goes, take care,
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