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Going through a bad patch

PostPosted: Wed May 14, 2003 7:42 pm
by Cazza
OK Its long but stay with me..

OK Me and my friend Lisa have been friends forever, and as we have grown up we have been just as close, but she has never had a boyfriend and I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. But we have still made time for eachother etc. Now recently her and another girl that I know have become quite close, which I think is a good thing as sometimes I can't be there for her because of my commitmets to my boyfriend. Anyway we all socialise together there is always a crowd of us that goes out almost every weekend. Only this weekend we didn't I then later heard that they had all went on Fri and Sat night and didn't even invite me or my bf. Now I was very annoyed about this, because me and Lisa would never ever leave eachother out, but as time goes on I'm getting the impression that I'm being pushed out of the group, and Lisa's new friend Vicki sent me a nasty email basically telling me I'm childish and jealous and some other very nasty things.. Now I have cried for 2 days solid about this i am so hurt by the way things are turning out..

Not only is my "friend" worrys getting me down by the looks of it I won't have a job in July. Aswell as that my Dad is threatning to leave if my mum doesn't stop drinking.. The only thing I had going for me was my boyfriend and my friends as my support and by the looks of it Now I only have my boyfriend. I just don't know what to do, or how to pick myself up. Every day in work I'm constantly worrying, I am on a diet but I'm virtually eating nothing because of worry. Any advice would be greatly appriciated thanks

PostPosted: Wed May 14, 2003 8:01 pm
by Aldo
have you spoken to Lisa? Maybe there was a mis-communication and Lisa had assumed you were invited. Sometimes these things happen. Ignore this email, or even better print it out and show it to Lisa and then see what she say's.

You will always find another job! Don't worry about that.

PostPosted: Wed May 14, 2003 8:05 pm
by Cazza
I ddi I asked lisa about and she said, I know it seemed as if we were 2-faced but thats just the way it happened, she was with the girl when she wrote it!!!! :(

PostPosted: Wed May 14, 2003 8:14 pm
by Aldo
Let her know how hurt you were and ask WHY she wrote the letter. Why did she even let her send it to you. Don't giv her ultimatums though. Just let her know you were hurt and confused on what has happened.

PostPosted: Thu May 15, 2003 9:16 pm
by misatok11
Please talk to Lisa and try and get her on her own.If she still seems to be giving you the cold shoulder it may be time to move on but let her know thast your door is open should she want to return. It seems a sad way to loose a friend but people change and move on. Hope it all works out for you!

PostPosted: Tue May 20, 2003 10:50 am
by Theparadox
Aw thats awful :( Having friends is very important, especially when you've got lotos of other things going on in your life, but do you really want to hang out with these people? They're horrible! People change a lot in their teens, and maybe Lisa's feeling a bit left out with you having a boyfriend, but she shouldn't have let that email be sent. Why not join some after school clubs, look for a new job or something and make some new friends who will hopefully have more respect for you?

PostPosted: Sun Jun 15, 2003 4:47 am
by Llisa
HI hun,
here's a different twist on the subject. Did you ever think that justm aybe you and Lisa are growing apart? Don't get upset! Sometimes it happens! Friends just start to go off in different directions for...whatever reasons!'ve moved...DIFFERENT happens! I was BEST friends with a girl right from kindergarten through to 9th grade...then we just...started hanging out with other people. It sound kind of weird...and it was awkward at first...but we got used to it. We just accpeted the fact that it happened. We atill are friendly with eahc other hard feelings.... Still though, talk to Lisand see what she says. ok?
Will be praying for you