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Before i fall to pieces...

Postby shorty_0383 » Sat May 23, 2009 1:10 pm

[b]Hey
I have had a bit of a major issue recently and i feel like my world is all about to come tumbling down on me....
I have been with my boyfriend since February of this year...and after having a fairly horrendous time with my previous fella...its been a good year since i have been involved with anyone....my fella and i started off hanging out and then seeing each other and then we decided to take the plunge and start going out with one another...i know February is not that long til now...but we were taking it baby steps... then i found out i was 6 weeks pregnant last Thursday....it came as a bit of a shock to say the least and i told my fella...we didnt really have time to get over the shock of it all as on the Friday night I started to get really painful cramps and low and behold, i lost the baby. Its been a bit of a torrid time recently and whilst our relationship is solid (we seem to have got closer to one another- only our two closest friends knew and were able to support us) i feel that in my own mind, i am falling to pieces. Whilst it was not planned...and although i was in shock...it certainly wasnt a terrified shock...if that makes sense. I know i need time to get over this, i just have started to analyse and examine the rest of my life and i am not happy with what i see, in terms of my job, a few of my so called friends...they know nothing of the situation but it certainly doesnt help when they are all so self centred!! and just generally life.
The thing is, i have no idea where to start or how to get myself out of this funk... i keep trying to make myself busy so i dont have time to brood on it...but there are times where i do begin to question my own sanity... any advice or comments would be gratefully received!!!
Thanks!
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Re: Before i fall to pieces...

Postby whoopsie » Sat May 23, 2009 2:12 pm

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it wasn't planned and all, but to have any kind of choice or decision to be taken away from you must be incredibly hard. Were you feeling the way you are before this happened? I imagine that in the short space of time you knew you were pregnant, you started to re evaluate your life and priorities etc? Either way, I think you need to give yourself time to heal after this, emotionally and physically, whether the pregnancy was planned or not.
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Re: Before i fall to pieces...

Postby morris mouse » Sat May 23, 2009 2:28 pm

whoopsie wrote:I'm so sorry for your loss.To have any kind of choice or decision to be taken away from you must be incredibly hard. You need to give yourself time to heal after this, emotionally and physically, whether the pregnancy was planned or not.


I agree. Be kind to yourself. Big hugs to you. :grouphug:
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Re: Before i fall to pieces...

Postby captainf » Sun May 24, 2009 2:42 am

Sorry to hear of the sad loss. It sounds like you're in the very early stages of grieving but it also sounds like this situation has opened your eyes up to the parts of your life that are not making you happy.
For a situation like this i'd suggest talking to your boyfriend and letting him know how you feel. As you say you're both close so he'll want to help and support you. Additionally I suggest going to counselling - Someone neutral who will listen and help you. Once you've had time to talk and heal you maybe able to come to some conclusions regarding the situations within your life that you're not happy with.
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