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Lie about small, regardless things.

Postby ThisIsATempo » Mon Nov 23, 2009 12:58 am

Hi, can anyone give me some advice please?

Basically, I lie about near enough -anything-.
No matter how small, or big it is, I'll exaggerate or extend it by lying for no reason at all. It's really starting to annoy me because it's -not- how I want to live my life.

An example or two of what I would do are:

"Oh, yeah man. I accidentally set the camera on continuous shot so it took like 80 photos, but I just deleted them all" There was no continuous shot on my camera.

or

"Aw, mate, I literally had to walk like 5 miles to get to college this morning because the bus broke down. It was ridiculous."

These lies are completely pointless, yet I still say stupid things like these.

I guess you could psych- analyise this by saying that I don't find my life 'fulfilling' or simply that I just like talking, but I life is great for me at the minute, so I have no idea why I keep sub-consciously lying!

Has anyone had something similar - or some advice for what I can do?


Thanks!
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Re: Lie about small, regardless things.

Postby ILoveChristmas » Mon Nov 23, 2009 9:16 am

Maybe your personality is one where you always like to be the centre of attention, and embellishing what would normally be an everyday story comparible with your friends' with something that makes it quite extraordinary is your way of achieving that?
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Re: Lie about small, regardless things.

Postby Bel Bel » Mon Nov 23, 2009 5:23 pm

I always exagerate everything and people who n=know me find it funny. I see it as my way to get attention but I don't blantly lie about anything.
All my exagerations are very obvious like "the bus broke down and it took me about three years to get home and my feet were so battered they came off when I pulled my boots off" - so very obvious exageration.
You probably do wnat to be the centre of attention and find you get the best reactions from people when you are like this and then it becomes a vicious cicle.
However actively lying will get you caught out and then no one will take you seriously when you have something important to say
Perhaps have a few jokes ready for times of boredom or when you feel left out of a conversation
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Re: Lie about small, regardless things.

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Tue Dec 01, 2009 9:17 pm

My boyfriend does this or did this....He did it for confidence but he said he never got told off for lying and was never told lying was wrong; he only learnt from making a big mistake recently.

Either you actively change yourself or you wait and hurt someone you love and then you will learn. It does sound like you want to change yourself; why don't you set yourself targets to begin with and see how it goes.
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