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not coping with learning disabilities

Postby saramidnite » Tue Mar 15, 2011 6:08 pm

hello

i worked for a company for 8years and if i am honest, they were very understanding about my dyslexica
but i am not sure if it more then dyslexica
every job i have had since are not so understanding

i not good at change
but i have tried, every job i have had since i moved to n.ireland to live with my parther,
they say i am to slow at things which upsets me

the 2nd job i had here, keep saying i am slow, or i ask for help at times to understand somehing that is very straight forward to most people.
i at one stage broke down at work as i knew i couldnt keep no matter how much i tried, i couldnt physically work any quicker,
my manager even asked me the moment i walked into the room whats wrong now.
even though i may have just walked to the room to get a file, not talk to her.
i guess me getting my words jumbled up dont help either

the last job i just had i just coulnt remeber every thing, it really frustrated me. i studied so much and wasnt keep on it was temp through an agency ,
i am now job hunting,

but it does effect my day to day life, my eye sight and hearing has also got worest.
i keep thinking i want to be normal

do you ever feel you are getting dumber each day
or you know something but cant get the words out
you ask people questions as you not sure and they look at you like you are silly as they expect you to know or remember every thing.
it making me more and more frusrated.
i can handle my hyperness which just happens out of the blue, but it has happen at an interview, which was bad timeing as i believe i would of got the job if i could of bin less bubbly.

i am so angry and frustrated with my self right now
i wanted to see a doctor but my boyfrind pointed out they cant do any thing.
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Re: not coping with learning disabilities

Postby ILoveChristmas » Wed Mar 16, 2011 12:59 pm

First of all, I disagree with your boyfriend.

A formal diagnosis allows you to explore treatment and/or management options with your doctor, of which there are plenty. At the moment you're living in some kind of limbo where you don't know what's wrong, but you know something is, and now that it's got to the point where you're becoming depressed over it you really need to seek help.

As for your employer; they sound like they're being very unreasonable. Employers are, by law, required to make certain adjustments to help you. Whilst we can't pretend it isn't sometimes inconvenient for them if you're working slower or need extra help, there is simply no excuse for the kind of "what is it now" remark that your manager made. She is treading dangerous ground by making remarks like that.

Make an appointment to see your doctor, and in the meantime do a little reading on the subject. Try to avoid making any self diagnoses though.

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Dyslexia/P ... tment.aspx

I notice that website recommends that you plan your work by making a mind map as a first step. If that's something you'd like to explore I can help you out with that through my work. I don't want to post any links on the forum to my work for the sake of anonymity, but you're welcome to PM me.
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Re: not coping with learning disabilities

Postby saramidnite » Wed Mar 16, 2011 2:07 pm

thank yoou.

interms of the manager i stop working there november as they did not keep me on, other mamagers thought i was doing badly due to what she said plus when she was on the phone she also said whats wrong now which i no the area manager heard and other mamagers so they recieved a bad view of me.

i am gald though i dont work there as it was a bad company once we had her as a manager as she claims she dont lie due to her religious beliefs but it not true she lied to me about my boyfrined and to me about another collegue i found out is just as bad as her and they best mates, yet the manager said she dont like her.

that's in the past though. i was told i had dyselica when i was 17 at college ten years ago. but my sister says i just usuing as an excuse for not understanding things.
she knows other people with dyselcia and they dont misunderstand as much as me and get frustrated and jumble lots of words.

she gets A* in exams and a snob which she proudly calls herself.
i was lucky to get d/c as i found it impossable to remember things.
my own mum would tell me off due to my bad memory.

i am at my wits end. i would love to be a history teacher or even just get a basic job
as right no i cant afford to go back to studies and worried i wont pass.
i hope to learn to drive but i got to try and get a job first.

i am confident i will get one but i worried i will be to slow like i was on me preious job
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Re: not coping with learning disabilities

Postby ILoveChristmas » Wed Mar 16, 2011 2:24 pm

saramidnite wrote:My sister says i just usuing as an excuse for not understanding things. She knows other people with dyselcia and they dont misunderstand as much as me and get frustrated and jumble lots of words.


Dyslexia is not a cut 'n' dried condition where you either have it or you don't. People can suffer from dyslexia in many many different ways and with a great variation in severity, so your sister's comments mean very little. Just because she knows people who suffer with it simply cannot be used as a basis for telling you you're either making it up, or don't have it. Even a GP will struggle to do that. You're almost certain to be referred for a proper diagnosis.

saramidnite wrote:I was lucky to get d/c as i found it impossable to remember things.


This is a documented symptom of dyslexia. It's part of the reason why that website I linked to suggests the use of mind maps to help you retain information. They're a much more graphical, logical and tactile method of remembering information than traditional written methods.


The thing to do is see your doctor. Allow them to refer you to a specialist who can make a diagnosis. Try hard to ignore little jibes from people like your sister. It's very easy for them to poke fun and accuse you of making it up when they don't understand.

As for your work, well done for sticking it out. The way I read your post leads me to believe that you plan on staying there until November, which shows great strength on your part. Do remember their obligations though and hold them to it once you have your diagnosis. Who knows, once they know what the situation is they may be a little more understanding and if not, then you either hold your head high, stay until November and leave or you pursue a complaint.
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