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depression...?

Postby rufio89 » Fri Jan 06, 2012 12:01 pm

Hi All,

Ive had a rough year this year, but I felt like I was coping ok with everything, I've been down, but no worse than I thought can be expected for the circumstances. But then I lost my job. At first I wasnt too upset because I hated my job and I thought it would be a blessing in disguise. But as the weeks have gone on Ive just felt worse and worse and the past 3 weeks or so i just cant get myself out of bed. At first it was one bad day where i was a mess and i thought I just need to power through and ill be fine, but these days are getting closer together and today ive just woken up in floods of tears. I cant even get myself out of bed, Im just such a mess.

I made myself an appointment to see the doctor today but that's not until the end of next week. It's my sisters 30th birthday today and im supposed to be going round to her house this afternoon for tea but i just cant face talking to anyone.

I know the doctor should be able to advise something but for anyone who's been here before can anyone help at all in just the short term please?
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Re: depression...?

Postby highlandcow » Fri Jan 06, 2012 2:02 pm

Hi Rufio

You poor thing, that sounds awful. :cry:

I'm glad you've made an appointment to see someone though. It sounds like you've waited long enough to do that.

In the past I was diagnosed with depression too. Once when I was 17 and again when I was 19. Both times I was put on anti-depressants.
But one doctor gave me a website to use to see if I could change the way I was thinking about certain situations.

Here it is.

http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome

I think that's it. If you just Google Mood Gym it should be there if that doesn't work.

It's a long haul but some aspects of it worked for me. It teaches you cognitive behaviour therapy skills so you can cope with your own thoughts so to speak.

You should try and get to your sister's though. Even if it's just for an hour. Is there a friend you can take to help you through it, rather than going alone?

I'm sorry if this is not much advice. I just wanted to let you know, you're not alone. :D xx
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Re: depression...?

Postby snail » Fri Jan 06, 2012 4:47 pm

These are mostly common sense really, but they've helped me in this situation:

*If it's a weekday, try to get up at your normal time. Do not lie in bed in the mornings - it'll make you feel socially isolated, worthless, lazy etc, before your day has even started.

*Once you're up, get dressed as soon as possible and make your bed and tidy up any dirty dishes etc.

*Have at least one task allocated to do each day. This way, you have something that you should be doing, and a reason to get up. It should be something non-stressful, not too big, but useful. It could be to post a CV or clean the bathroom, or organise your sock drawer.

*Try to get outside for a walk in the daylight every day.

*Do at least 30 minutes of exercise each day. Put on cheerful music or do it in front of a TV programme.

*Eat regular healthy meals and stay away from the booze and the caffeine, but don't beat yourself up if you need a bit of comfort food too.

*Watch as much comedy as possible.

*Socialise with other people as much as you can without getting stressed.
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Re: depression...?

Postby rufio89 » Tue Jan 10, 2012 5:27 pm

Hi guys,

Thank you for replying, I know it's taken me a while to reply but it really did mean a lot :)


I've taken your advice as much as I can. I've had a look at that website and it's got some useful stuff on it, so thank you :)

Since my post:

Friday I did eventually get up and try to do something productive. I ended up going to my sisters house and baking stuff with her for her party. I think I was pretty lousy company but that's what sisters are for eh?

Saturday I was a lot happier. I took one of my friends to Ikea then I went to my sisters party. I got myself all dressed up and got lots of compliments which was nice and it was really fun :)

Sunday I was a bit hungover so I lazed around in bed, but it was a "blarrgggghhhh feel sick" staying in bed, not a "oh my god I cant even get myself out of bed" thing, until the afternoon then my boyfriend came round and he made me dinner and we watched a film and we got an early night, which was nice.

I've been keeping myself in a bad pattern last week partly because of my boyfriend I think - he's still been on annual leave from christmas, he went back on Monday, so I've been lazing around a bit like I was on holiday, not unemployed.

So, this week I decided to make a real effort. As he had to get up and go to work yesterday, I made sure I got up with him. I sat around for a bit and watched TV and stuff, but I was up and dressed and had my breakfast by 10, so it's not too bad and I went running then applied for a couple of jobs then went for a drink with my housemate in the evening.

I'm happier if I keep busy, but part of my problem is that my mood goes in real dips. Like yesterday and today, for example, I've been in quite good spirits and it seems almost silly to be going to the doctor now, but then it will crash again, so I feel like Im sort of waiting for that to happen (which isnt going to help I know).

So, my daily tasks in the short term are:

- Get up at the latest 9am. I like my sleep, so I've given myself a bit of a lie in, so long as I get up and get dressed right away once I wake up. If I stay with my boyfriend, I'll make sure I get up and dressed when he goes to work.
- Apply for min. 5 jobs per day.
- Go running or swimming everyday
- Try to see one of my friends who isnt my boyfriend at least once during the week.
- Make sure I eat properly, 3 meals, proper food, no junk food.
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Re: depression...?

Postby highlandcow » Wed Jan 11, 2012 5:39 pm

rufio89 wrote:So, my daily tasks in the short term are:

- Get up at the latest 9am. I like my sleep, so I've given myself a bit of a lie in, so long as I get up and get dressed right away once I wake up. If I stay with my boyfriend, I'll make sure I get up and dressed when he goes to work.
- Apply for min. 5 jobs per day.
- Go running or swimming everyday
- Try to see one of my friends who isnt my boyfriend at least once during the week.
- Make sure I eat properly, 3 meals, proper food, no junk food.


I think these strategies are really good Rufio! :D Especially the running and swimming, I know it seems horrible to even think of exercising when you feel rubbish but the endorphins create a natural high. Hopefully you'll find a job soon as well. Have you tried www.jobsite.co.uk (or it might be .com) I used that to apply for jobs and it got me loads of interviews and the job I'm in now!

Keep it up, but still go to the doctor, as they can help too. :D xox
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Re: depression...?

Postby Jayz » Fri Jan 20, 2012 2:05 pm

Hey Rufio,

Great work posting this up in the first place! A lot of people are really afraid/ashamed about getting down but it is a perfectly natural, biological occurence that can happen to everyone so not something that needs to be brushed under the carpet as it were.

I have had depressive bouts myself in the past and they are not fun at all. Like I said above, it is important to remember that depression is a chemical imbalance in your brain. It is an actual condition, you're not being weak or soft etc.

As it is a chemical imbalance the food you eat is really important starting place. This link has got some details about the sorts of food you should be trying to get inside you. If you don't like fish then buying some cod liver oil would be a great idea!

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is another great way of stimulating the production of certain chemicals in your brain (sorry I am not the most scientific person in the world!). If you can get hold of a copy of Mind over Mood that would be great. It is a workbook with lots of exercises. It does take a bit of soul searching but I've found that it really helps.

I guess you're not so ready for it just yet if you aren't keen to get out of bed but if you could get some sort of very simple exercise program into your routine that would be great. Set yourself very attainable goals. That way you'll get out of the house and get some fresh air but it will also give more structure and purpose to your day. Achieving little goals and progressing is really great for the mind! It is added stimulation.
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