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Feel so useless

PostPosted: Wed Feb 05, 2014 11:31 pm
by lunababes101
I've been okay but, and this sounds pathetic I know, ever since moving into year 10 I've been struggling. I'm behind on most pieces of work, in subjects I usually do well at I am getting low scores, I haven't been doing much sports that I like anymore. I feel like I've got so caught up in the same routine that I'm having to do the same over and over again every single day and now its like I'm tied to it. When school trips come up I feel like I can't do it or not feeling bothered to do it because, though I know I will enjoy it once I'm there, I feel trapped into my routine. I don't play in my football matches anymore and I feel like I can't do my horse riding right either. I feel like I can't do anything right no matter what I do. Its really getting me upset and I'm worrying and stressing about the future. I've also become prone to over think things since this has come on, even simple things, I seem to plan it all out in my head. I don't want to continue feeling like this anymore, I need some advice..?

Re: Feel so useless

PostPosted: Fri Feb 07, 2014 4:16 pm
by ILoveChristmas
Hi Luna,

It's difficult to know what to advise because, whether we like it or not, we all have to through times in our lives that involve monotonous routine like when we're at school and for some people when they're at work. The secret is in finding ways to break the perception of being stuck in a rut.

You could do that by finding something new to do out of school hours or at the weekend when you've got some free time. Don't just fall back on the same old things. Maybe you could go into town with friends and go to the movies, or maybe you could start having regular evenings in at a friend's house where you watch TV, eat junk, chat about boys (teenage girls do that, right?). The point is, having something in your week that's new and exciting is something to look forward to and that helps to break the monotony of the rest of your week, and that in turn makes it less of a struggle to do what you need to mid-week.

I think it's important to relieve some of the pressure you're putting on yourself. Don't feel like you need to do all the things you have been doing. If you don't want to do sports, don't. If you want to take a break and not ride your horse for a week or so, don't. I'm sure there are plenty of stable hands who would ride him/her for you mid-week.

Monotonous routine gets to everyone eventually, so don't think you're alone in feeling the way you do. Sometimes it can be best motivator to make positive changes.