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I am suffering badly with depression because of my Ex, help

PostPosted: Tue Aug 05, 2014 12:20 pm
by smb
I’m having trouble leaving my partner. Been together about 15 years, married, divorced and back together again. I don’t love him like I did, too much damage has been done, can’t be intimate with him at all. I am very unhappy and desperately want to change things but I can’t talk to anyone. I have tried to end it a few times again, but he just twists everything and turns very nasty. I am at breaking point, I had a bit of a melt down over the weekend, I completely broke down and could not stop crying. We went through a very bad time during our marriage, he was an alcoholic. He no longer drinks and we got back together as I thought he had changed. He is verbally and emotionally abusive. I try to tell him why I think I am depressed, like what he put me through etc and he won’t accept it. He just tells me to pull myself together....
He wants to change me, to be a “better person” he does not like me the way I am. I know I would be better of without him, I just like to bury my head in the sand and I don’t deal with things very well at all. My depression is quite severe and I have never dealt with it properly. I do like him as a person, I would miss him, but this is not healthy for me and I can’t seem to break free again. I’ve got friends but I don't really see them anymore. Whenever I want to go out or do something, even though he tells me I should go, he always moans about it. I'm very confused. I need counselling, the doctor just gives me CBT info and they can't help me.

Re: I am suffering badly with depression because of my Ex, h

PostPosted: Tue Aug 05, 2014 5:31 pm
by snail
Hi SMB

It's best to stick to one thread per problem; it keeps all the information in one place, and members read all the sections so you won't get different replies in a different section.

I'll pop your post above on the end of your previous thread about this.