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He left his wife but is wracked with guilt and shutting down

Posted: Sat Feb 25, 2017 10:36 pm
by Happy J
I have been with my man 3 years. He left his wife 15 months ago. They were basically living like brother and sister. I won't go into detail but she treated him so badly that he was so down trodden and emotionally abused but he stayed for the kids. Due to all the arguing and how unhappy he was and how happy we were he then left.
His ex wife is still very manipulative and using the kids to get to him which is working. He has shut down emotionally from me. He says he loves me and I believe him but he seems depressed and he says he just feels overwhelmingly guilty for breaking up the family. He takes all the blame and thinks he is the reason she trelated him so badly.
He says he was more ok when we were secretly together as his wife was blissfully unaware but now he feels immense guilt. He wants everybody to be happy and it to be a fairytale ending.
How do I help him through this because he means the world to me.