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I feel abit down - Doing my GCSEs

Postby ZMF » Tue Jun 03, 2008 12:13 am

I dont know if anyone is in my situation, but I'm pretty new to this whole problem page thing, I had no resort but to see if any of you could help.

I live in Saudi Arabia, Riyadh, but I'm British and I've grown up here my whole life. It's pretty rubbish, things aren't how they were before, and all the Westerners are leaving. Situation here, like security, is a bit shaky as several years go, there were bombings in residential areas.
My dad hates it here, but has stuck it out for me, because the education here is good, in the British School Riyadh, producing top results every year. If it wasn't for me, and I quote, 'I wouldn't be here.'


Currently, I'm doing my GCSE's and i've done most of them, but I can't help but think I've done terrible. I feel, that I could've done more revision and always plan to do so, but sometimes, I cant never really do it.
Our School has recenly opened up a Sixth form, and to make things easier for my Dad, I would stay, but there's nothing for me.
They only accept passing rates of the grade B and all the sujects there are academic, I'm only good at arts and that sort of thing.

I think I'm stupid and I've come to terms with this.
People tell me I'm not, but I know it's just some white lie to make me feel better. It also makes me angry when my peers will tell me about the lack of revision they've done, and come out of the exam room confident as ever - it's like, why tell me you're going to fail? when you know you're going to do well.

I feel so useless because I know how much my dad has invested into my school fees every year, and we're not made of money. We're moving back to the UK and life will be hard, because everything here is pretty much spoon fed.
My Dad has the right to see that email in August and see good results, but right now, I feel I cant give what my dad deserves for all his hard work.

I don't know how to cut it, all my peers around me seems to be so relaxed and the majority have a brilliant study/work ethic - I am not one of those people. I also hate the majority subjects I do, we're made to do 10 GCSE's, which I feel, is too much.

I feel really low and in a bad place at the moment. I used to cut and OD, B and P because I was really depressed during the course of my SATS in year 9 - and I really DO NOT want to go back to that unhappy period again.

I know I've said this, I really owe my Dad good results, but I feel really useless. I keep calling myself a bunch of names, I feel I'm just a failure. I'm really stressed out that I'll fail all my GCSEs and re do them and all that. I know it's MY future, and it doesn't really affect my Dad, but I'm 16 and every other teenager, whether they say they dont care or not, do deep down, about what their parents think about their result.

Looking back at all of this, this has turned into somewhat of an essay.
Sorry to all the readers, I had to vent out someway or another.

Seems silly, but it's 2 am over here, and I have an exam in a couple of hours but I can't sleep because this keeps lingering in my mind.
Do you have any advice to change my mood?
Or anything to calm me down?
Anything at all?

Thanks, ZMF.
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Postby morris mouse » Tue Jun 03, 2008 2:40 am

Hello there,"ZMF"

Welcome to "Problem Pages" :D

Well,"ZMF" you're at a very important (& stressful) time in your life,
with exams [but this won't last forever!!! :)]

Just do your best,and thats all anyone can ask of you [& I'm sure,that
whatever happens,your dad will be very proud of you]
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Postby Pwif » Tue Jun 03, 2008 8:16 am

Hi ZMF,

Phew. Your post reminds me so much of the time when I did my GCSEs. The pressure; the sleepless nights; the worry that I hadn't worked hard enough/I hadn't revised enough; the worry that everyone else found the exams so easy; the worry that my parents (who had very little money) had pumped so much money and time into my education, and I would be letting them down if I didn't do well. I went to an academic grammar school. I wasn't particularly academic, and I struggled to do as well as others in my year. I got through my exams. Some grades were better than expected; some worse. It's now years later, and do you know what? Nobody gives a monkeys about what grades I got at school.

Your dad obviously wants you to do well, because he's trying to give you the best start in life. However, I'm sure that he will be proud of you for the effort you've put in to your exams (it may not feel like it at the moment, because you're under so much stress). Most parents just want the best for their children.

Once you've finished your GCSEs, I would sit down with your dad and tell him your concerns about the 'A' levels on offer. If you don't feel that they match your skills, it would be better to find those that do.

Good luck. Just remember, you've done the best you can. No-one can ask more of you. :P
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Postby ZMF » Tue Jun 03, 2008 8:34 am

'Pwif'
'Morris Mouse'

Thankyou so much for your words of wisdom.
I'm actually surprised that people got back to me!

I talked to my Aunt just after posting the comment this morning,
She basically said the same thing as all of you.

I've actually just woke up now,
a bit late, and I'm off to look over some Business Notes,
since the exam is today at 1:00 pm
(Saudi Time)

One again, thanks so much for relating and replying!
I really really appreciate it! :)

I'll get back to you both, with how I feel I did.

Take Care,
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Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Tue Jun 03, 2008 9:41 am

You know what life is a witch at times, I always did loads of revision and didnt ever do as well as my frineds either. It is something that you cant change. One of my friends would turn up having done no revision and get 90% all the time and I would revise and scrape 50%.

I am 100% sure that your dad will he proud of you no matter what, remember you can only do your best. If you tell him you did your best and you did try then he will be happy - I can guarantee that! You are not competing with your friends, just concentrate on yourself and do the best you can xxx
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Postby Bel Bel » Tue Jun 03, 2008 9:44 am

My daughter is in the same position as you and I have to keep reminding her that exams are not the be all and end all of life
Many very succesful people leave school with no exam results
All you can do is try your best
I am glad you spoke to your Aunt
It's hard to relax but you will perform better if you just take it as it comes and don't put too much pressure on yourself. This is why the others around you appear to cope so well bcasue they are just relaxed about it.
I agree 10 GCSE's is too many. My daughter has to do 11 because she has to do all 3 sciences as she goes to a school that specialise in science. Most schools only do 1 science.
After the exams have finished tell your Dad you have tried your best and hope you don't let him down - this will make him realise that you feel under pressure to please him and hopefully if things don't go as well as you want he will understand you have tried your best
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Postby ZMF » Tue Jun 03, 2008 5:09 pm

Hey everyone,
After a long afternoon with me getting so worked up about my Business Studies, to my surprise,
the most dreadest paper of the lot, was actually better than the first paper I did, it was actually a good paper.

I kept in mind all the things you wonderful people have said,
i kept relaxed and I told myself,
imma give this my best shot and give it my all.

I feel so much better,
thankyou all so much! Seriously!

BelBel - Thanks for the comment.
From a mothers point of view, it's so nice to hear an adult that you're telling your daughter to just do her best.
Even my teachers today told me that, and to 'chin up' because it's not the end of my life.
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Postby morris mouse » Tue Jun 03, 2008 7:09 pm

Hello there,"ZMF"

Many thanks for getting back to us. :)

Great to hear that everything turned out ok,in the end. :P
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Postby Bel Bel » Wed Jun 04, 2008 9:41 am

Really pleased we could help you out and so glad it went ok
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