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Postby xxconfusedxx » Tue Jun 14, 2005 7:39 pm

hi i am in a relationship with a guy who's 16!!! im 24 and although i love him theres a part of me that thinks its wrong ....most people know we are together but when i go to his school to pick him up somtimes his teachers give me dirty looks coz they know too!!! especially the female teachers!!!!!!!!!!
i dont know if what im doing is wrong wether he is to yougn or not!>?!?!?!
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Postby brielle » Tue Jun 14, 2005 8:02 pm

you are old enough to decide for yourself if its right or wrong, go with it if its making you happy, trust in yourself, and your boyfriend too, Im sure things will get better, in a year or two he will have a job etc and it wont be so bad, good luck
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Postby all_apologies » Tue Jun 14, 2005 8:45 pm

Although it does come across as a bit out of the ordinary, if both of you are comfortable then there's no reason why you should feel bad. It's unfair to tar all people of the same age with the same brush: one 16-year-old may be much more mature than the next.

When you consider that there are loads of relationships where the male is around your age and the female much younger, it's not that unheard of. As I say, if you're both happy then there's nothing wrong. The people that are judging you don't know the ins and outs of your relationship and therefore aren't worth getting worked up about.
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Postby nothings_shocking » Tue Jun 14, 2005 10:04 pm

They are probably giving dirty looks because they want what you want.
If both of you are truely happy, then tere is no reason why you should carry on seeing him.
Who is to say who you can/cannot see?
At the age of 16, i think he is old enough to make his mind up about partners.
I don't see how your relationship is different from a girl seeing a 24 year old guy.
I think it is because of the age. If you were both older then i think things would be different and people would have different opinions.
If you are happy then everyone else should be happy for you.
You deserve happiness and don't let people destroy what you have.
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Postby Liquidius » Wed Jun 15, 2005 7:31 am

16 and 24 - that's 8 years. And there's nothing wrong with that as long as you are both happy. The only thing you might want to watch out for is the fact that he might want to go and explore the single life one day, because he's fairly young :)
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Postby arwen » Wed Jun 15, 2005 9:47 am

At 16 he's an adult so neither of you are breaking the law or, as far as I see it anyway, doing anything wrong. There's 10 years between hubby and me and nobody's bothered.
As long as you're both happy, ignore the "dirty looks" - it's his life and yours and you're not hurting anyone.
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Postby singingsmiler » Wed Jun 15, 2005 10:06 am

There is an unfair stigma attached to women having younger partners. My boyfriend is 20 and i'm 24 and we still get comments but we just ignore them.

If you are both happy then no one has the right to make you feel bad for having a relationship.

The world would be a very messy and lonely place if we all lived our lives for other people - so just chill and enjoy your relationship.

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Postby lilessexgal » Wed Jun 15, 2005 1:19 pm

i think you should ignore the people who are giving you grief about it there probably just jealous or just dont understand! its not as if hes underage hes 16 hes old enough. if two people truely love each other i dont think anything should stand in there way of being together!

i wish you the best of luck with him.
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Postby nothings_shocking » Wed Jun 15, 2005 4:41 pm

don't worry about the age gap!
16 years between friends mum and dad,
20 years for my parents
27 years between her and her husband to be!
you cannot control who you fall in love with.
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Postby singingsmiler » Thu Jun 16, 2005 9:18 am

nothings_shocking wrote:you cannot control who you fall in love with.


so true =D>
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