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Have you ever been bullied?

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Bullies

Postby IvyFoxglove » Mon Aug 29, 2005 3:10 pm

on my website i put a comment about not liking blonde b**ches and girls from my year took offence from this thinking it was directed to them!

Now they have left threats of how they are going to do these awful things to me and bully me.

They make comments that are very personal and this is getting me worried.

How am i gonna survive Year 10 with bullies?
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Postby brielle » Mon Aug 29, 2005 7:50 pm

yeah trouble is if you direct a comment like that then you will bound to get peoples backs up.

But you are obviusly concerned about what sort of things they have in store for you, so try and not worry too much untill something does happen, then sort it out, maybe tell somoene, etc. and explain everything first, o.k.
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Postby smile » Mon Aug 29, 2005 10:47 pm

Hey,

This may be helpful to you:

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/bullies.html wrote:What Can You Do?
For younger kids, the best way to solve a bullying problem is to tell an adult. For teens, the tell-an-adult approach depends on the bullying situation. One situation in which it is vital to report bullying is if it threatens to lead to physical danger and harm. Numerous high schoolers have died when stalking, threats, and attacks went unreported and the silence gave the bully license to become more and more violent. Adults in positions of authority - parents, teachers, or coaches - can often find ways to resolve dangerous bullying problems without the bully ever finding out how they came to know about it.

If you're in a bullying situation that you think may escalate into physical violence, try to avoid being alone (and if you have a friend in this situation, spend as much time as you can with him or her). Try to remain part of a group by walking home at the same time as other people or by sticking close to friends or classmates during the times that the bullying takes place.

Here are some things you can do to combat psychological and verbal bullying. They're also good tips to share with a friend as a way to show your support:

Ignore the bully and walk away. It's definitely not a coward's response - sometimes it can be harder than losing your temper. Bullies thrive on the reaction they get, and if you walk away, or ignore hurtful emails or instant messages, you're telling the bully that you just don't care. Sooner or later the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother you. Walk tall and hold your head high. Using this type of body language sends a message that you're not vulnerable.

Hold the anger. Who doesn't want to get really upset with a bully? But that's exactly the response he or she is trying to get. Bullies want to know they have control over your emotions. If you're in a situation where you have to deal with a bully and can't walk away with poise, use humor - it can throw the bully off guard. Work out your anger in another way, such as through exercise.

Don't get physical. However you choose to deal with a bully, don't use physical force (like kicking, hitting, or pushing). Not only are you showing your anger, you can never be sure what the bully will do in response.

Talk about it. It may help to talk to a guidance counselor, teacher, or friend - anyone who can give you the support you need. Talking can be a good outlet for the fears and frustrations that can build when you're being bullied.

Find your (true) friends. If you've been bullied with mean rumors or gossip, all of the above tips (especially ignoring and not reacting) can apply. But take it one step further to help ease feelings of hurt and isolation. Find one or two true friends and confide that mean gossip has hurt your feelings. Set the record straight by telling your friends quietly and confidently what's true and not true about you. Hearing a friend say, "I know the rumor's not true. I didn't pay attention to it," can help you realize that most of the time people see gossip for what it is - petty, rude, and immature.


I hope you manage to sort things out.
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Postby arwen » Mon Sep 05, 2005 3:14 pm

I'm not surprised they took offence!
Have you tried talking to them and explaining it wasn't directed at them?
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