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He's got cancer :'(

Postby PurePurple » Fri Nov 24, 2006 8:30 pm

Hey all.
I just need a shoulder to cry on..
I'm really cryin my eyes out I just found out my bfs got cancer..
And he doesnt know where.
Oh, it hurts so bad :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
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Postby peecee » Fri Nov 24, 2006 8:43 pm

ok, calm down, sweet pea.

Tell us what you know, and we can help you.

For starters, how does he know he's got cancer? The doctors wouldn't just say "hey, boy, you've got cancer, now go home". So he must know more than that, and you know you can tell us anything, me dear.

Post again, ok?

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Postby PurePurple » Fri Nov 24, 2006 8:47 pm

He said he wasnt feeling very well.. so he got a scan, and his dad died of the same cancer.

He said, he could have had treatment when he was 4 but its too late. and hes going to die :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
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Postby peecee » Fri Nov 24, 2006 8:49 pm

Cancer of the what? Is he panicking because his dad died of cancer, so he's convinced he's going to go the same way?

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Postby PurePurple » Fri Nov 24, 2006 8:55 pm

He doesnt know what cancer..
He said, he asked the bloke how long he had but he just blanked him..So he assumed it wasnt long :cry:
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Postby angelic neko » Fri Nov 24, 2006 8:59 pm

Hey purple,

I know how you must feel. Three people in my family have lost their lives due to cancer. The only one who could have treatment was my nan but it failed. My grandfather and uncle where caught out to late.

Did they give him some kind of time line? They normally do. My uncle only had 3 weeks yet carried on for 2 years before he decided to go. So he made the most of it. Saw his grandchildren more who live in Sweden. Cut out smoking altogether despite it being too late. Spent as much time with his wife and seeing everyone he hadn't seen in years and do things he always wanted to do after he had retired.

So my advice is to make the most of it whilst you can. You never know. With new cures all the time he might be asked to try one out :D

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Postby PurePurple » Fri Nov 24, 2006 9:08 pm

Oh my god!!!

Look what he just said

"im goin bak tomoro for a full scan then get my tests sumtime in december showing if i have it or not but the doctor sed hes pretty sure he saw the same illness in my dad"

[»Bεтнέ«] says:

so how can u not get treated if they aint sure you got it?
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coz its the exact same thing he seen in my dad. so its pretty much a 1 billion to 1 chance it aint
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Postby captainf » Fri Nov 24, 2006 9:58 pm

Try not to worry! If they catch it early enough they can treat it.
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Postby Pwif » Fri Nov 24, 2006 10:44 pm

Hold on. Calm down. Most cancers don't manifest until people are older. I presume your bf has had a consultation with a cancer specialist, and he will have gone through all the details with your bf, ie what the symptoms are, what treatment is necessary etc etc. If he has a serious problem, he will definitely have a full treatment package, and that will be modified/updated as he progresses.

What has your bf told you about his symptoms/diagnosis/expected treatment??

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Postby PurePurple » Fri Nov 24, 2006 10:50 pm

Nop.. He just told me..

I dont think he really wants to talk about it
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Postby Liquidius » Sat Nov 25, 2006 1:21 am

Oh dear :( *gives many hugs* I've just lost a friend of the family from cancer. 'Tis an evil disease.

Ok, my next point might make you angry, but I'm going to be honest, and just type what I see from here...

The whole things strikes me as odd. Your boyfriend would know what cancer it is. Doctors will not give you a diagnosis so serious without a full explaination as to what it is, and what options you have regarding treatment.

He said, he could have had treatment when he was 4 but its too late. and hes going to die...


This makes me very suspicious. I have never heard of any diseases that do that. If cancer is heridetary, there is no treatment you can have beforehand to stop it from happening. That would be a cure for cancer, for which there isn't.

I think you need to talk to him about it some more, when he's feeling more up to it, and clarify some details. He may very not have enlightened you because he's shocked, but I think you should know. Please don't take this post the wrong way, the last thing in the world I would want to do is offend you, I'm just trying to be honest.
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Postby PurePurple » Sat Nov 25, 2006 12:00 pm

He's going for his full scan today so see if he has it..

He's totally convinced he has it.
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Postby PurePurple » Sat Nov 25, 2006 1:12 pm

Ok, he hasnt been for his full scan - but he said they found traces of cancer and it matched his dads.
He said, its heart cancer - and its not functioning properley.. and it wont let him sleep because it gives a huge burst of pain..
He said he's only got a couple of years :cry:
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Postby gatekeeper » Sat Nov 25, 2006 1:25 pm

Someone correct me if I'm wrong, I just think it's odd someone has heart cancer. Of course, cancer cells can grow everywhere but it's just odd. Maybe it's a rare form of cancer, so rare that it runs in families.

I agree with Liquidius, that you should get more information from him, because the whole thing sounds odd, esp the part about him getting treatment when he was 4.

I don't think doctors would give him a diagnosis without running full tests, consulting his family, especially his mother if he's under 21. There are so many things they need to do instead of just going, "you have cancer, some tests needs to be done."

You might want to follow him on his next visit, get some information from the doctors, read up a bit so you'll know how to handle difficult situations.

I'm really sorry if my post offended you, I'm trying to be as honest as possible and also recalling what happened when my dad was diagnosed with cancer.
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Postby Liquidius » Sat Nov 25, 2006 3:51 pm

Absolutely agree. Also need to point out that 1) I have never heard of heart cancer and 2) You don't find traces of cancer. You either have it, or you don't...

Keep us posted though please Purple.
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