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Postby PurePurple » Sat Nov 25, 2006 7:24 pm

Heya, I researched heart cancer on the internet - it is possible.
If its a tumour the only way to stop it is removal, drugs will damage your arteries and the heart itself.

However, he has got it for definate.. the doctor has just arrived so he can tell the doc if he wants the operation.. which will stop him doing physical stuff, but he wont have the cancer.

He asked me if he should get it - and I said yes.
I hope it was the right choice.

Apparently, the op didnt work on his dad because he had an infection already, which he shouldnt have.
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Postby Bexical » Sat Nov 25, 2006 7:36 pm

The doctor not tell you what it is exactly untill they have done tests and they dont just come out and say you only have a few years left, he needs to make this clearer to you, I agree with liquidius very strange. You hope he wont have the cancer sometimes its doesnt work like that, my unlce thought it was that simple and its not, if its in his heart how are they going to get it all out depending how far its got.. i believe your WHOLE heart needs to function and sometimes cancers embed themselves into tissue
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Postby Liquidius » Sat Nov 25, 2006 7:56 pm

the doctor has just arrived so he can tell the doc if he wants the operation..


I presume he's in hospital at this point?
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Postby Pwif » Sat Nov 25, 2006 8:29 pm

A close friend of mine has bowel and liver cancer, and I've accompanied him to the doctor/various hospitals and attended meetings with consultants with him over the past year (just to give him moral support and to make notes, because he's devastated by it). The doctor/consultants have been very careful about what they have told him at each stage of the diagnosis and before/after his scans/chemotherapy/radiotherapy/operations. Not once have they told him he doesn't have long to live (his cancer is very serious). They are taking each stage as it comes.

I honestly do not believe that on quite flimsy evidence, a doctor would tell your bf that he has heart cancer (based on the similarity of his and his dad's symptoms), and especially would not tell him that he has less than two years to live. I presume that your bf is quite young (maybe under 20?). The doctor/specialists just would not say that. It would be grossly unprofessional. Have you talked to your bf in detail about this? Have you spoken to his mum? She would be able to explain what her own husband went through.

The reason why I am putting this bluntly is because you are very upset, and I think your bf needs to give you more information, otherwise you may be worrying unnecessarily. Why not pop over and discuss your concerns with your bf and his mum. Good luck.

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Postby PurePurple » Sat Nov 25, 2006 8:30 pm

It seems a bit strange - hes going in tommorow..
I thought he would have been in now.


(And hes 14 lol pwyfyb)
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Postby Bexical » Sat Nov 25, 2006 8:35 pm

Is there no way you can call him mum and find out anything, it might just put your mind at rest hearing the truth and knowing the whole thing
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Postby Pwif » Sat Nov 25, 2006 8:42 pm

I hope it all goes well with your bf tomorrow. Has he told you what will happen to him in hospital? He's very young to be shouldering this major worry. Let's hope for the best, eh?
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Postby PurePurple » Sat Nov 25, 2006 8:49 pm

He said the doc said, the only risk was that he will be extremley tired after the op and might black out a bit..or fall asleep
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Postby peecee » Sat Nov 25, 2006 9:12 pm

I agree with Bexical, try and contact his mum for more info.

When people visit their doctor for something potentially serious, they can be so worried or frightened that they don't always hear exactly what the doctor tells them, or they get confused by it all. That's why pwyfyb says she goes to the doctor with her friend, and why I went to the doctor's with my dad.

I'm sure your boyfriend's mum would be able to tell you more, and put your mind at rest. AND your boyfriend's mind! :)

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Postby Bexical » Sat Nov 25, 2006 9:29 pm

Not only do they not hear correctly but they concetrate on the bad things and sometimes they exaggerate them... Not intentionally but its because its how they see what till happen
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Postby Liquidius » Sat Nov 25, 2006 11:46 pm

Right Purple, read this carefully...

Before someone is diagnosed with heart cancer, the following things happen:

- An Echocardiography: This is a procedure where tiny probe that is passed over the body to produce an image of the chest cavity, and in turn, an image of the heart to look for any abnormalities.

- A CT (Computed Tomography): This is another procedure, along with something called an MRI scan that are both used to get an inside view of the body, so that any abnormalities of the heart can be seen.

Now, if they even detect a tumor at this stage - a biopsy (small section) of the suspected tumor is taken - and sent off to see if it is benine (only one tumor), or melignant (if it's cancer). This would take place in a hospital, in an operating theatre.

The doctors would not tell your boyfriend he has cancer, until at least some of the above has been completed. Has he had any of these things?
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Postby Bexical » Sun Nov 26, 2006 12:44 pm

I suspect when he mentioned an operation that this would be the biopsy first as I heard that can meake you tired, If he had had it all removed he wouldnt just feel tired he would probably be in ICU (Intensive Care Unit) because its his heart.
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Postby PurePurple » Sun Nov 26, 2006 3:40 pm

He has had the op today, and he made it :D

He said he was going to call me, cos he gets 1 call after the op - but he couldnt speak! :o
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Postby Liquidius » Sun Nov 26, 2006 5:33 pm

Ok, Purple - I'm going to be honest with you here.

There is absolutely no way anyone can be diagnosed with cancer out of the blue one day, and have had an operation two days later, and then come home straight away. It's major open heart surgery. As Bexical said, you'll be intensive care for days afterward.

There are waiting lists, and cancer takes months to diagnose, no matter whether it's hereditary or not. Heart cancer is particularly rare, so it wouldn't have been diagnosed for months. He will have had the have the other procedures mentioned previously before they'd even dream of telling him he had cancer.

I don't know what kind of sick, twisted joke he's playing, but it's not fair on you.
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Postby Bexical » Sun Nov 26, 2006 5:51 pm

I agree liquidius there is something definately not right here, a call after a major operation I dont think you would be able too, but who am i to judge, you really need to know whats going on here
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