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Im not sure why i am so down.

Postby Maryflan » Tue Jun 13, 2006 3:59 pm

Hi this is my first time on here :) I am 20 yrs old.

I dont know if i need advice or just to talk. I feel out of place in life. Im a Uni student living at home. My friends all seem to just work and drink. I have never really socialised with Uni friends outside of uni lectures. So i dont feel like i fit in anywhere. Uni has finished so i spend my days doing pointless things to fill time. I think im lazy and cant seem to get out of this rut. Ive felt so down the last month. But iv had these thoughts for a while. Where do i belong.

I feel so bad because there are so many other people with worse problems. I wish i could motivate my self. i hate it when i say 'i cant be bothered' and 'I'm fed up' but i keep saying them anyway. I dont have a boyfriend im in alone during the day. Lol im going to stop talking now anyway and see if anyone notices me :)
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Postby Seaside Belle » Tue Jun 13, 2006 5:51 pm

Of course someone is going to notice you - why wouldn't they?

Because you feel a bit rubbish and worthless at the minute? Well, we all feel like that sometimes, honey, and its rubbish for all of us.

My most hated trait in others is apathy, yet when I'm really low this is how I act. You do feel shallow and selfish when you realise that others have far worse problems then your own but it still doesn't take away the fact you're hurting.

In short, everyone feels like this - its normal! If it gets worse go to the doc's and address the chemical imbalance in your brain (depression). However a large proportion of gloomy 'life' depression can be remedied by eating well and exercising regularily. Getting a job also helps, routine is a good thing! Go and volunteer to do something - it makes you feel better about yourself. Join a club or society at uni when you get back. This is your own mental health, you will find friends, you will find your place in the world - but you have to go out in to world to find them.

Be brave - I'm sure you'll be fine.
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Postby Laurajane » Tue Jun 13, 2006 7:57 pm

hey,

its a vicious cycle when you feel like this- how to get motivated when your so fed up takes a huge effort. You seem to have pinpointed how your feeling quite well and now you just have to make that hurdle and start to enjoy your uni life. As seaside Belle says we all feel like this at times, but sometimes its lasts longer than it should. You belong exactly where you are right now- when i was at uni i felt exactly the same because i was at home everyone else was at uni- that doesnt stop you joining in though. The only person who can motivate you is you, so whether its through making friends with people at your leectures or joining a society do it, you'll be glad you did.
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Postby Maryflan » Wed Jun 14, 2006 10:54 am

Thankyou for answering. I looked up apathy and decided that describes quite well how i feel.

Im going to make myself busy, i will let you know how it goes.
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Postby Laurajane » Wed Jun 14, 2006 6:21 pm

really glad to hear it- come back and tell us how you got on
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