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Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 7:32 pm
I checked over the other boards, but this one seems suitable as it's not a "relationship" or necessarily "sexuality" problem that i have (unless I completely missed the "Sex" board?). It's a sex-related one & i am 15. I had my best guy friend over earlier and we're quite close & (im sorry, but i'm not too sure of a more scientifical term) he fingered me. But it felt weird and kind of hurt in a way, so he asked if he should stop & I said yes. I was wondering (and you don't have to tell of personal experience if you don't wish to) is it supposed to kind of hurt? It was the first time I'd had this done to me, and I am still a virgin. I was thinking it's probably that i've not broken my hymen yet, and that was causing the pain? I just wanted to make sure that something wasn't wrong with me.
Thankyous in advance x x
Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 11:40 pm
My opinion is the same as yours, and when you have penetrative sex it may hurt for the first few times (i saw may as some ppl it hurts some it doesnt). It hurt me but it was more like a short pain down inside there for a millisecond every so often. Not great but not the worst either.
Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 10:27 am
This is all too familiar to me. When my ex fingered me the first time it hurt just like you said. its not just you, and it'll go over time especially after you've had penatrative sex a few times. dont worry about it, its normal to feel pain.
Plus if you've not had penatrative sex before then no your hymen wont be broken properly yet. dont worry about it, its just because your not used to someone touching you there, so you're naturally going to tighten up down there a little, making it hurt. just try to relax and it shouldnt hurt.
Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 6:02 am
Ohh, I wasn't sure
whether it was totally normal because when I said that it had hurt, he was kind of confused by the fact that it did. That's exactly what it was, a few short pains every now and again. & Also, i've read before (in magazines, so maybe not the best source?) that when your hymen breaks there's the possibility of blood? Is this actually true, I was kind of curious to know & it saves posting another thread :] Many thanks for sorting out my concern
Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 10:08 am
Yes there is the possibility of blood if your hymen breaks.
Some peoples break without even knowing from doing exercise such as horse riding but it's different for everyone and hasn't necessarily broken from this recent incident either. Once you have sex it will definately break if it hasn't already
Take no notice of the boy being alarmed he may not even know about hymen and he may also habve been with girls who didn't feel the discomfort before, everyone is different and never let a boy make you feel bad becuase he chooses to compare you with his past experience, thats more about him being inexperienced usually
Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 11:01 am
Ah :] Well now I understand :] Thanks x x
Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 2:07 pm
the pain in sex, and sexual activity, isn't usually the hymen breaking. It's because the muscles in your vagina arent used to being stretched.
My first time was very painful, and i was quite worried about the pain, thinking it was abnormal, but dont worry!
Posted: Sun Sep 21, 2008 11:08 am
Breaking the Hymen is a painful thing, this is what makes sex painful, its nothing to worry about, the pain shouldn't arise again until actual sex, if it does before then see your GP
it would hurt
Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 4:16 pm
i got finered once and it didi hurt your not the only one it does hurt people but others dont