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A General Question

PostPosted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 1:04 am
by Zozzypop
I`m not pregnant or anything.n i haven`t had sex.i`m 14 and just watched the new film *juno*... has anyone alse seen it?.. i was jw but does everything always turn out that way? :-? i mean does under age sex always turn out for the grl to be pregnant? Does the guy always walk away? And does getting pregnant underage always ruin ur life, if u keep the baby ? Not that i`m thinkning of pregnancy at my age.. just inquisitive of people`s thoughts on this subject

PostPosted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 8:54 am
by dipsydoodlenoodle
The answer to all of your questions is no, underage sex does not always turn out in pregnancy, I think when you do it underage you don’t think about the consequences so are less likely to use contraception therefore resulting in pregnancy. Always use contraception.

Guys don’t always walk away, although I could imagine telling a 14 year old boy he is a dad, I’m sure he would walk away, it’s a hard thing and if you are young and have separate lives then he isn’t going to hang around, however some men will.

Getting pregnant underage and keeping the baby will not ruin your life, it may alter your life and change your plans or delay plans but it won’t necessarily ruin your life. It will be hard because it’s not like you can work to pay for the baby etc.

Personally I didn’t have a child and still don’t I’m 24 and maybe being selfish here but I want to live my life, I want to do my own things, with a child you cannot. My friend was actually saying to me last night her mam was 20 when she was born and her mam spent her 21st birthday in hospital as my friend needed operations, and her mam was saying she wasn’t ready or prepared and her mam actually said she had ruined her life.

The trick with having a baby is to be financially stable and ready; I’m still not ready for a child now, but if it did accidentally happen then at least I am financially stable and mature enough to handle it.

PostPosted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 5:02 pm
by Matpunklod
Some guys wudnt walk away. if they reli do love you then they wud stay.

PostPosted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 2:05 pm
by rufio89
it wont always ruin your life, but it will put you in a highly stressful situation, one which a 14 year old isnt prepared for. You also miss out on a lot of things that you can do if you dont have a child.

As for the man - they wont always run, but 99% of the time they will. Even if they stay with you, chances are it wont work out, relationships tend not to last through the teens and 20's - people change too much in that time. However, some guys will stick around. It has nothing to do with how much they love you, it's not they percieve the situation, and whether they feel capable of caring for a child.

I dont intend to have children until my late 20's or early 30's, until im financially secure and in a long term, happy relationship - but obviously things wont necessarily work out that way!

PostPosted: Wed Aug 20, 2008 2:15 pm
by Bel Bel
It is really hard being a young parent for boys and girls. I had my daughter at 20 and married the man and he was worse than useless so i decided to go it alone after being marreid a very short time.
As Ruth said you do miss out on stuff but I also think not everyone is emotionally ready to be a parent and thats why they can't handle the discipline. They don't necssarily bring up their kids with the right morals becasue they haven't experienced enough in life themselves. There are always exceptions and none of us are perfect at the job anyway but I think it's better when your older and really want it and have done all the things you want to do and can provide emotionally and materially for the child and you 100% comitted to the job of being a good parent. (as best as you can be anyway)

PostPosted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 9:22 pm
by Liquidius
No, it doesn't always turn out bad. It's just that at 14, it's quite a lot of stress to have a baby. I'm 21, and I still wouldn't be able to deal with it! The same rule applies to everyone, use protection, and you'll more than likely not get pregnant!

The idea of the guy always walking away is a stereotype, and sometimes it can be accurate. But then, like all stereotypes, they're not completely true. Some young guys will really say anything to get you into bed, but then, so do older blokes! It's more about the person, than the age.