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Postby Ciara » Wed Oct 08, 2003 10:33 pm

Hey everyone! :)
I'm 15 and i was adopted when i was just over 1, until then i was put into foster care. I was just wondering if anyone knows how i can get in contact with my birth family. I know my birth mother's and father's names, and have a file of information about them. I also know that i have four half-siblings, who are all older than me and all have different fathers and were also all adopted. I dont really know if i want to try and find my parents - i can find my birth father as he died, but i think that i would really like to meet my half-brothers and sisters. I am kinda worried about whether or not they want to meet me, or what i might find out about my birth family :-?

Thanks for looking at this, and really thank u if u can help

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Postby Claire Voyant » Fri Oct 10, 2003 9:31 am

Hi Ciara,

This is a really tough decision to make and I advise you to make it carefully. Is there a reason why you've decided to do this now, or has it always been something you wanted to do?

If a recent event has triggered your desire to get in touch, perhaps you should consider all your motives first.

There are many agencies that offer specialist services and support for people in your situation. As you say, perhaps the hardest part is not knowing how your relatives will react to the news. These agencies are there to act as a buffer zone between you and those you are trying to contact.

The process can be a very emotional one for all concerned, so I suggest the first thing you do is contact one of these agencies for advice.

Try here:
http://msxml.uk.info.com/_1_2FW8TWC02M7 ... 7&infoad=1

Good luck, and I hope it all works out for you.
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Postby Ciara » Fri Oct 10, 2003 10:21 pm

Thanks for the site Claire Voyant, i've always wanted to meet my brothers and sisters - i dont know what the exact reason is, but for most of my life ive thought about meeting them. I think its cos they are related to me, ive never meet a blood relative b4 and although i rele love my family, i also rele love the idea of meeting someone who looks like me. It feels weird whenever i see my frineds with their families, as they often look very much alike, whereas i kinda stick out in my family.
I think i will wait until i'm 18 to find my birth family - it'll be hard tho, as all of my brothers and sisters were adopted too, and might be scattered around the country. I also think i may not try to find my mother - ive already found out upsetting things about her and i dont think i would rele like to meet up with her in person.


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