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Short skirt and revealing top: acceptable to become upset at someone looking?

Yes, nobody should be looking.
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Wouldn't bother me.
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No, if you put it on show you have to expect that you'll get looked at.
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Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby ILoveChristmas » Wed Apr 08, 2009 3:04 pm

I wondered what people's view on this were. Don't get annoyed or Ruth will do you =;

I often see women out and about with their busts all but hanging out and skirts that are barely covering their back sides, while thoroughly enjoying the attention. I've also seen similar women who take great offence to the inevitable attention from passing young men.

My own opinion is that if you choose to dress with your bits on show, you have to expect a level of attention that you wouldn't get if you were wearing jeans and a T-shirt!
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Re: Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby RagDoll » Wed Apr 08, 2009 3:13 pm

Agreed 'I love Christmas'. To some extent I think they must do it for the attention!
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Re: Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Wed Apr 08, 2009 3:21 pm

To be honest you wear stuff like that to be noticed or to be looked at...
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Re: Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby Weasley » Wed Apr 08, 2009 3:28 pm

I have a rule when I go out "Boobs or bum" Never both! If I wear a skirt, I wear a high neck top, if I wear a low cut top, I wear a pair of jeans or a knee length skirt - NEVER show both!
If I showed off too much and people looked I would hate it! I've always hated that kind of attention anyway. But I too can't understand when a girl wears nothing more than a belt and has her boobs hanging out, and a guy gorps when they get so nasty? I mean, if you don't want people to make comments, don't dress like that!
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Re: Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby snail » Wed Apr 08, 2009 6:39 pm

I don't really dress revealingly but my opinion is: it's fine for people to look, but nothing else is acceptable.

If something unusual or exciting is on display, people will naturally look at it and that's OK, but that is as far as it should go. It is not acceptable to make comments on someone else's appearance, whether those comments are about their revealing clothing, about their disability, or about the colour of their skin. How someone chooses to dress is their own business, and nothing to do with anyone else. Likewise, if I want to look at them, where I look is my business.
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Re: Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby kerrie24 » Wed Apr 08, 2009 7:14 pm

I agree if they dress like that they are doing it to get noticed, my sister wears tiny dresses and then moans if men make a comment or whatever but in my opinion if she didnt like it she wouldnt go out dressed like that.It is possible to look just as nice and feel confident without having it all on show.
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Re: Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby whoopsie » Wed Apr 08, 2009 9:37 pm

I completely agree with Snail. Also, what bothers me, is 'men in White vans' who beep women regardless of what they are wearing. Surely they should be keeping their eyes on the road?!?!?!
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Re: Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby earthchild » Thu Apr 09, 2009 10:04 am

yep i agree, if you flaunt it then expect to be looked at ! its human nature.

degrading comments, however, i feel over step the line!

lol, this reminds me- yesterday morning on the way to work i saw a man wearing extremely nice trousers, nice material, nice colour and very smart, i was so engrossed with it i didnt realise i was staring at his crotch until i looked up and caught eye contact with him :oops:
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Re: Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Thu Apr 09, 2009 10:12 am

earthchild wrote:lol, this reminds me- yesterday morning on the way to work i saw a man wearing extremely nice trousers, nice material, nice colour and very smart, i was so engrossed with it i didnt realise i was staring at his crotch until i looked up and caught eye contact with him :oops:


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Re: Scantily clad but angry at the attention, reasonable or not?

Postby earthchild » Thu Apr 09, 2009 10:17 am

oh yeah forgot to say, i follow the same boobs/bum rule as Weasley :)
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