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Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

PostPosted: Tue Sep 01, 2009 10:31 pm
by captainf
Not exactly high maintenace but maybe abit. No one can really 'know' if you're actually busy doing something so you would just have to tell them so they know not to send you lots of texts. Like, if you love sending/recieving loads of texts and you have a boyfriend who does this then thats great but he cant just 'know' when he isnt to text you because he doesnt know when you are busy or not. Equally he wont know when you're bored and want to recieve lots of texts.

I like the idea of texting though - allows you to converse with your partner when you're not able to be with them and also gives you something to lookforward to (recieving a text from them) when you're at work or having a rubbish day.

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

PostPosted: Wed Sep 02, 2009 7:17 am
by LME79
That's not high maintenance, rufio.
I prefer e-mail. E-mail doesn't goes BEEEEEEP or ZZZZZZZZ every other minute (SO annoying), plus you can say more in an e-mail and link each other up to youtube vids and the like. Also, if you're e-mailing and pull a 'serious' face it looks like you're working even if I'm just sending my boyfriend loads of funny jpgs. Did I mention I really don't like texting? It hurts my thumb.

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

PostPosted: Wed Sep 02, 2009 11:16 am
by RagDoll
Yeh, I prefer emails whilst I'm at work too, but I guess Rufio can't do that with date-guy as he doesn't have an office based job!

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 8:46 am
by dipsydoodlenoodle
rufio89 wrote: i only like that many texts if im really bored. If im doing something im enjoying i find it annoying. They have to just "know


captainf wrote:Not exactly high maintenace but maybe abit. No one can really 'know' if you're actually busy doing something so you would just have to tell them so they know not to send you lots of texts. Like, if you love sending/recieving loads of texts and you have a boyfriend who does this then thats great but he cant just 'know' when he isnt to text you because he doesnt know when you are busy or not. Equally he wont know when you're bored and want to recieve lots of texts.


I agree with Ruth. My bf doesn't text back unless I text back so if we are bored there are lots of texts; if we are busy we don't reply so the other person will "know".

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 3:03 pm
by captainf
Yeah but thats not the point I was making.
Men are not mind readers and sometimes women can go into "ignoring" mode when they are annoyed with something, so if you're busy thats fair enough but men just cant 'know' the difference. If your boyfriend texts you and you dont reply theres no need for him to text again, but if one minute you want alot of texts from him and the next you dont that can be abit confusing down to the fact that as I say men can't read your mind and know when they are and are not allowed to text you.

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 3:18 pm
by LME79
captainf wrote:Yeah but thats not the point I was making.
Men are not mind readers and sometimes women can go into "ignoring" mode when they are annoyed with something, so if you're busy thats fair enough but men just cant 'know' the difference. If your boyfriend texts you and you dont reply theres no need for him to text again, but if one minute you want alot of texts from him and the next you dont that can be abit confusing down to the fact that as I say men can't read your mind and know when they are and are not allowed to text you.


That's not limited to men :lol:

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 3:31 pm
by captainf
Indubitably. :)

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

PostPosted: Tue Jul 29, 2014 3:31 pm
by rufio89
Haha I stumbled across this post because I'm bored at work and feeling reflective and just felt I had to post:

I cant believe I WANTED someone to text me SIXTY times a DAY! I love my boyfriend to pieces, but if I'm at work and he texts me for no reason, I have a bit of a 'whaddayawant' sort of reaction to it.

It's funny how much people change!

Re: New Relationships - How much contact should you be in?

PostPosted: Wed Jul 30, 2014 12:37 pm
by Bel Bel
Or grow up :P :P :P
Nice to know you are in a much healthier place in a relationship now :D