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Re: p*rn

Postby RagDoll » Wed Jun 24, 2009 10:48 am

I don't think you were being particularly harsh either.
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Re: p*rn

Postby captainf » Wed Jun 24, 2009 3:40 pm

Okay thanks for taking the time to clarify. If im completely honest I only read the convo you posted because I dont have time to go through 5 or 6 pages.

If hes constantly saying that he hasnt been on there and you know he has then of course theres a problem. However do you have specific dates that hes been on there? Once you've been on websites they stay in your history unless you start deleting history and cookies. Could it be that you're looking at history from a long time ago?

I noticed you mentioned that in order to close certain things he had to click on them first. Could it be that the link or advert he clicked on took him directly to the 'chat'? Like I said previously, some adverts can show what looks like a live chat but isnt necessarily.

As for being harsh, its a matter of opinion but the way things are it doesnt seem your method is really working. I can understand though, if it was me i'd be pretty annoyed if I felt a partner was lying but then there comes a point where i'd think if they wanna lie they are no longer worth the trouble. I'm not saying thats the current case for you though. I just think that you should talk through it with your boyfriend when you see him - see what sort of body language you get from him as that can tell alot.
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Re: p*rn

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Thu Jun 25, 2009 10:05 am

The history that I saw was from e.g. "Monday" so it's from the present week. If its sunday or before it normally says "previous" week etc.

captain_flynn wrote:I noticed you mentioned that in order to close certain things he had to click on them first.


HE said that, in his defence for going on them. He said when you get a pop, you have to click the site to close it (rubbish).

captain_flynn wrote:Could it be that the link or advert he clicked on took him directly to the 'chat'


Doubt it. The main link takes you to a site, with girls listed as live or offline and you then click on their image to go through to chat - which is what his sites were...through to the chat.

captain_flynn wrote:As for being harsh, its a matter of opinion but the way things are it doesnt seem your method is really working.


I still don't think I was harsh. He'd done something wrong, he deserved to be told off or be told that I don't think it's acceptable.
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Re: p*rn

Postby kerrie24 » Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:31 am

dipsydoodlenoodle wrote:he deserved to be told off or be told that I don't think it's acceptable.


I would have been exactly the same had it been my boyfriend.
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Re: p*rn

Postby rufio89 » Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:42 am

dipsydoodlenoodle wrote:
he deserved to be told off or be told that I don't think it's acceptable.


I would have been exactly the same had it been my boyfriend.


I'd have been a lot worse!

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Re: p*rn

Postby RagDoll » Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:46 am

lol me too! I can't stand people lying to me!
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Re: p*rn

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Thu Jun 25, 2009 1:59 pm

Thank you girls :).
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Re: p*rn

Postby captainf » Thu Jun 25, 2009 4:52 pm

I understand what you're saying. I've had a few pop ups (not porn though) that have come up and when i've clicked the X i've still been taken to their website. So its always a possibility.

All I can say is that you've got to talk to him face to face about it. Its easier to tell if hes lying then.

He'd done something wrong, he deserved to be told off or be told that I don't think it's acceptable.


Careful now, you're his girlfriend not his mum and he isnt 5.

Maybe try talking to him than telling him off. I agree lying is unacceptable but in 'telling him off' it isnt going to help. Talking through will help, talking through it with him face to face, take him to the computer, show him what you saw, dates, times etc..
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Re: p*rn

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Fri Jun 26, 2009 9:24 am

captain_flynn wrote:I've had a few pop ups (not porn though) that have come up and when i've clicked the X i've still been taken to their website. So its always a possibility.


Yes but they take you to the main body of the site rather then bits you have to click on to get there.

captain_flynn wrote:He'd done something wrong, he deserved to be told off or be told that I don't think it's acceptable.

Careful now, you're his girlfriend not his mum and he isnt 5.


I think if his mam knew what had happened she'd have taken his head off; so he got it relatively easy from me.

captain_flynn wrote:I agree lying is unacceptable but in 'telling him off' it isnt going to help.


So I'm supposed to sit down and say "please don't do it again" and him doing it again, rather than getting upset about it and being slightly angry - so he KNOWS it's caused me upset and anger? 'Telling him off' obvioulsy did work as he closed his account, without being asked and even when I said I'd looked in his e-mails and saw he'd closed his account (yes I told him) he said he didn't mind that I'd looked and I was free to look any time I wanted.
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Re: p*rn

Postby captainf » Fri Jun 26, 2009 4:28 pm

Okay, good luck with dealing with it however you want to.
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