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I feel like such a sad loser

Postby LemonJuice87 » Fri Aug 21, 2009 8:55 am

Well, this weekend has finally arrived. V Festival. Mr. LemonJuice left about half an hour ago and for some reason I am really upset. I think it's the "What am i ment to do on my own tonight?" part that is upsetting me.
Since living with him, we have spent every night together, as in the sleeping sence. And it's not even 9am and i'm wondering how i'm going to sleep tonight.

I have nothing to do all day, evening and night. I can handle the day, he's usually at work, but it's the time in between him coming home and my daughter going to bed that i'm worried about. He usually helps me out.

I feel like such a loser, he's only gonna be gone the weekend, why can't i do without him for 4 days?

I hardly have any friends anymore, the two i can actually call friends are working, so i can't even have anyone round to keep me company.

I just feel like a weirdo for crying because my boyfriend isnt gonna be here. I'm not jealous that he's out having a good time and i'm not. I'm just gonna miss him.
You know you're a mum when the thought of food shopping alone becomes exciting.

When you and your significant other are having an argument, just take all of your clothes off during the spat and stand there. Something is bound to happen!! =]
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Re: I feel like such a sad loser

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Fri Aug 21, 2009 10:00 am

Could you not go and stay with your dad for a day or two? Have a fun filled weekend with yourself and your daughter; I know she is really young but offer to paint her nails bright pink or something, and you do the same with yours so you can be matching girls for the weekend.
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Re: I feel like such a sad loser

Postby Bel Bel » Fri Aug 21, 2009 10:05 am

Well it's only one night and you will enjoy seeing him all the more when you do and at least you have your daughter so you are not totally alone

Bake some cakes (cake mix if you can't do it from scratch) make it a shopping trip for ingredients and then baking and then eating - yum, do craft stuff, watch a movie, let your daughter stay up an extra hour as a special treat if she behaves

I think you need to think about spending more time with your friends in future. It's not healthy to spend all your time with mr lemonjuice, you should have other interests/people you see. It's not right you fall to pieces because he is gone for one night
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Re: I feel like such a sad loser

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Fri Aug 21, 2009 10:10 am

It's more than one night Bel Bel. The same still applies with what Bel Bel has said.
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Re: I feel like such a sad loser

Postby LemonJuice87 » Fri Aug 21, 2009 10:18 am

He's gone for the weekend, so wont be home till Monday afternoon.
I think it was the initial shock of having to entertain myself tonight. Me and my Daughter are going to stay at my Mum's tomorrow and Sunday. So all i have to worry about is the food in the fridge lol.

I have quite a few friends, just no-one that will be there if you know what i mean. All the Mum's at the Mother and Toddler group all seemed to have formed a friendship before i got there. They talk to me and have a laugh with me, but they don't invite me out yet or anything.

I know i should go out and do my own thing, but my first priorty is my daughter. I'm not bothered about myself as long as she is happy, full and looked after.
You know you're a mum when the thought of food shopping alone becomes exciting.

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Re: I feel like such a sad loser

Postby Bel Bel » Fri Aug 21, 2009 10:34 am

Oh i thought it was just tonight because you were going to go yourself as a barmaid - did that not work out?

Same advise still. Keep busy and fill up your time. You will be sooo glad when he is back it will be really nice and you can make up for the missed time :wink: :wink:

Well don't wait to be invited ask them to do something

Yes and I agree your daughter is your priority but it wouldn't hurt to have some time for yourself. They soon grow up and suddenly have really full social lives themselves, especially once they start secondary school. Don't neglet your own needs.
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Re: I feel like such a sad loser

Postby captainf » Fri Aug 21, 2009 3:20 pm

Aww sorry to hear you're feeling abit lonely.
First of all - you're not a loser.
You could take this weekend as a weekend to relax and just chill out. Theres many things you can do - How about taking your little one to the park for nice walk? That is providing the weather is okay. Alternatively you can play with her at home. If you like reading then when your daughter is asleep you can read or play the DS (if you have one) or something like that. Dont worry about being on your own, sometimes its really nice to have some me time.

I'm really sorry to hear that you dont have many friends you can actually rely on. I think that most of us are like that though - we all have friends, but then there are only a select few who we know will definitely be there.

I hope you have a nice time at your mums. :)
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Re: I feel like such a sad loser

Postby LemonJuice87 » Fri Aug 21, 2009 7:59 pm

Thanks captainf. And everyone else.
I guess i'm not used to been on my own anymore.

I think i just needed a kick in the head to realise i'm been daft.

I have a book i've been meaning to finish since February. Early night i think, for once. Lol.
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Re: I feel like such a sad loser

Postby captainf » Fri Aug 21, 2009 8:04 pm

Ah dont worry, I spend alot of time alone so I know how to keep myself entertained. :)
Maybe you should try finishing that book tonight? It might be something to pass the time :)
As for an early night - not a bad idea, you can spread out more in the bed tonight :D
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