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I can't leave work at work

Postby LME79 » Sun Jul 02, 2006 11:36 pm

hey all,

Recently I acquired the job that I have always wanted. It's in the media and is quite stressful at times, but I was expecting that and I prepared myself as much as I could for it.

Anyway, I am fine with the stress at work - I sort of soak it up and use it as an incentive to get things done. To be honest, I've always 'thrived' on stress as it kept me motivated but recently I've found that all I talk about is work. Friday is a particularly busy day as it's filled with meetings, figures, profit margin talk blah blah blah plus the actual job (!) and I'm usually at work until about 7/8pm to finish things that need doing BEFORE Monday morning (otherwise I'd get in trouble). As I say, I was prepared for this - I was warned in the interview, I was warned in the second interview and I don't mind the hours HOWEVER when I'm sitting on the train on the way home all I can think about is "did I do this? Did I do that?" (30 minute ride home) and it's torture, especially if I remember something that I didn't do. It tortures me until Monday morning...nothing bad happens, it's just extra hassle that I have to deal with which is actually no big deal but the fact that I know this means that I shouldn't stress over the weekends. I feel sorry for my boyfriend as whenever he asks "good day at work?" over a cuppa I just come out with this torrent of stress.

The point of it lies here - I am, admittedly, a perfectionist when it comes to work. I hate cutting corners, I hate not finishing tasks up to standard and so whenever I feel I've underperformed I have a tendency to worry. No-one has ever pulled me up on underperformance ever, I think probably because I have such high standards but I pull myself up on it constantly....surely that can't be good? Help me stop worrying so much! Now that I have this job I want to be able to enjoy my evenings and weekends! FYI, my core hours are 9.30am to 5.30pm. I usually come in around 9am and leave around 6, half 6.
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Postby Brighter » Wed Dec 27, 2006 2:03 am

Maybe you need a bath. To "wind down" when you get in from work?

Perhaps your boyfriend likes that you confide in him about stresses at work.
And if not letting out stress to him. Where are you else are you going to?

:D

How about getting a massage, or taking a weekend out to a beauty retreat with some girlfriends. Or maybe even your boyfriend :wink:

You might just be too eagar to impress your new bosses, and keep at a good standard. They'll notice you're working too hard and maybe even give you a few days rest.
And as this is a new job, you're just settling in, and everything has to be perfect! But the novelty will wear off soon!

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Postby Liquidius » Wed Dec 27, 2006 12:21 pm

Hmm...having read your other posts related to this problem - it all seems centered around your job. Although you enjoy your job, and don't wan't to quit, you might need to take this into consideration if it's making your life so difficult. Some people deal with stress better than others, and stereotypically, in the media business, you need to be able to deal with it. Your job shouldn't be making you so miserable!

When I come home from work, I find the things that calm me down are not talking about work at all. Infact, talking about everything but work! You could try and make it a personal rule for yourself. Leave work at work, and don't bring it home with you. Come home, take a bath, have a relaxing cup of tea, read a book - or perhaps go out with your boyfriend, or meet up with some friends?
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Postby SunBum » Wed Dec 27, 2006 11:51 pm

I can only agree with the other posts here,

Work is work and Life is for Living !!!

Whilst no-one will fault a hard-working conscientious employee, your employer certainly won't as they cannot afford to lose people like you, Make sure you get paid for any extra hours, But you have to draw the line and learn to switch off when you leave work.
Ok, let your partner ask how your day has been and get things off your chest when you get home (but without taking it out on them if it has been a bad day etc) and then leave it there. Concentrate on the things you like to do outside of work..socialising, hobbies, clubs etc & of course quality time together with your partner.
Just learn to unwind and enjoy your time off doing the more fun things in life. We spend most of our lives working so by the time retirement comes we are too old to do most of the things we wished we had done when we were younger !!

Remember your time off work is exactly that......YOUR TIME !!!

If possible avoid socialising with people from work too, unless those people happen to be close mates who work at the same place too but please forget about work when you are out. (The odd works do is acceptable)

If you let work rule your life you will burn yourself out and possibly your relationship too....it does happen quite a lot !!!

There is an old Motto which still rings true today:

Work to Live NOT Live to Work !!!

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Postby LME79 » Sun Dec 31, 2006 1:12 pm

Ooh, I forgot I posted this....I must have duplicated it by accident!
I'm going to lock this one as my other one is more up to date but thanks for the advice :D
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