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I cant get anything from it ?

Postby xx_Stacey_Anne_xx » Wed Apr 15, 2009 7:42 pm

I had sex for the first time a while ago, and it was the usual , didnt expect anything , didn't get anything.
But it's been a while now and i don't get anything from sex.
I love the closeness of it, and how much he enjoys it, but i feel nothing
any advice
please help
I dont wan't this ruining our relationship
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Thu Apr 16, 2009 8:40 am

It won't happen instantly; someone people can't orgasm through sex full stop.
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby Bel Bel » Thu Apr 16, 2009 9:07 am

but you also have to tell him what feels nice and work on that
dipsy i right it doens't always happen from intercourse but in certain postions he can help you along with his hand
howeverr you need to get to the point where you know what feels nice and the technique he needs to get there
some people can only get an orgasm through oral stimualtion and that is usually the easiest way so practice on that first
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby RagDoll » Thu Apr 16, 2009 9:12 am

Stacey, it was the same for me at first too - I wondered what the fuss was all about when I first started having sex! It took a few months of having sex to actually get into it and when I did I started to really enjoy it. I can't tell you what changed really, think it was just getting used to it, feeling more comfortable etc. etc.
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby xx_Stacey_Anne_xx » Thu Apr 16, 2009 11:57 am

Thanx, i just feel that everyone else i know, says how amazing it is, and i enjoy but just nothing amazing and i think my boyfriend thinks i am ment to enjoy it instently like he does.
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby RagDoll » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:02 pm

I would ignore what everyone else says, they're not necessarily telling the truth! It will get better as time marches on and as Bel Bel said, make sure you tell him what feels best etc. and go from there! Practice makes perfect ;)

With regards to your boyfriend, well, I don't mean to sound patronising, but that's probably what a lot of young guys think. He's probably seen images of women in films and wherever else (normal films and porn) instantly enjoying themselves, but that's not real life. Plus, men are built differently to us ladies, they can instantly get into it, whereas women often need more foreplay etc.
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:26 pm

RagDoll wrote:I would ignore what everyone else says, they're not necessarily telling the truth!


I agree, people won't say they didn't enjoy it - they will say how good it was to make themselves feel better or to be more popular or whatever.

RagDoll wrote:With regards to your boyfriend, well, I don't mean to sound patronising, but that's probably what a lot of young guys think. He's probably seen images of women in films and wherever else (normal films and porn) instantly enjoying themselves, but that's not real life. Plus, men are built differently to us ladies, they can instantly get into it, whereas women often need more foreplay etc.


This is my bf and he STILL thinks it! Well I think he still thinks it anyway...
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby xx_Stacey_Anne_xx » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:54 pm

Okay thanx, he understands but he keeps saying next time it will happen, and i dont want him feeling bad and i dont want to fake it just to make him happy
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby Bel Bel » Thu Apr 16, 2009 3:46 pm

never fake it, you are the loser and so is he really
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby xx_Stacey_Anne_xx » Thu Apr 16, 2009 6:21 pm

Thanx for the help,
i am just a bit impatiant lol
and one of those people that doesnt like waiting to see what happens
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby peecee » Wed Jun 10, 2009 6:26 pm

Snickersxx wrote:Hi
its the same with me. me and my guy have talked about it and it makes him feel like he cant perform and embarrassed. but too me it feels good anyway. i dont know what i can do to get something out of it.
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Re: I cant get anything from it ?

Postby liberalleague » Wed Jun 10, 2009 7:45 pm

I don't get anything from intercourse really either, but there's other things I can do with my boyfriend. Despite not getting anything from intercourse, I still think it's fun and so I still do it with my boyfriend. He always feels really bad and inadequate afterwards, men can't seem to understand that sex can be fun even if it doesn't lead to anything...
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