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anxiousdude23
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So Worried!

Post by anxiousdude23 » Sun Jan 20, 2008 6:49 pm

Hi all

well basically I didn't know where to post this, so hope this is the right place.

At school, I fell out with someone who then proceeded to spread a rumour I was gay and yep people believed it! so every now and then for five years, I got the odd homophobic insult. I am straight. Anyway, one of the guys who made the odd remark is now working with my cousin on a placement! long story how i found out. he has been on the job for six months and has another six months to go and I am just worried he will tell him what happened at school because I am scared how my cousin will react and if he will look at me differently. I know it was years ago and people forget/grow up etc. Also, people have said maybe something would have been said by now as its been six months. I just don't want him to say something like "oh yeah him is he gay because people thought so". This is worrying me so much

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Post by Yellowcoaching » Sun Jan 20, 2008 8:56 pm

as you've said yourself this has hopefully been forgotten already. Even if something is said your cousin went to school too and is probably well aware of all the stupid rumours that can get started there. He is unlikley to believe it and if he says anything then you can put the record straight, just tell him this was a hurtful rumour years back in school when you were too shy to do anything about it.
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Post by HappyGoLucky » Thu Jan 31, 2008 10:15 am

Rumours are usually forgotten after sometime. If he does bring it up, tell him the reason you brought that rumour up. Rumours are annoying and yes, may seem quite hurtful but if it isn't true, I would ignore the remarks. (Easier said than done I know!)
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Post by all_apologies » Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:13 pm

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Even in the unlikely event that the guy does bring it up, what's the worst that can happen? Your cousin might wonder if you're gay and you can tell him you're not. Loads of ridiculous rumours are spread round schools all the time and, with there being no truth in this one, there's no need for you to fret because you've got nothing to hide.

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Re: So Worried!

Post by Wilzy » Tue Feb 12, 2008 12:14 pm

anxiousdude23 wrote:Hi all

well basically I didn't know where to post this, so hope this is the right place.

At school, I fell out with someone who then proceeded to spread a rumour I was gay and yep people believed it! so every now and then for five years, I got the odd homophobic insult. I am straight. Anyway, one of the guys who made the odd remark is now working with my cousin on a placement! long story how i found out. he has been on the job for six months and has another six months to go and I am just worried he will tell him what happened at school because I am scared how my cousin will react and if he will look at me differently. I know it was years ago and people forget/grow up etc. Also, people have said maybe something would have been said by now as its been six months. I just don't want him to say something like "oh yeah him is he gay because people thought so". This is worrying me so much


He's your cousin, whether your gay or not (which you aren't) he wont look at you in a different light.

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