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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Thu Jun 25, 2009 9:57 am

heartfullalove wrote:I may be reading this wrong. But it sounds like your 'friends' don't exactly treat you the way friends should, and your self-respect is not all that it might be.


That is exactly what I said; I'm glad someone agrees.

grillyguy wrote:as a way of apolagy i let them put a condom over my head


They are really NOT your friends. To friends an apology should be a "sorry" instead of blackmailing you into doing something for an apology. Seriously dump your 'friends'.
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby grillyguy » Thu Jun 25, 2009 5:01 pm

i do see what your saying but it was only 2/3 people, all the rest werent doin anything and i cant cut all of em outta my life and if i dont then i will the others anyways.

im confused :S
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby heartfullalove » Fri Jun 26, 2009 12:58 am

Sorry to be nosey, but does your boyfriend know how u feel about this guy Dean? And if so, how does he feel about it?
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby grillyguy » Fri Jun 26, 2009 6:54 am

yeah he does know and he thinks dean is a hat to be honest and he understands how i feel

i dont feel anything for dean, i hink because i havent seen him and im worried when i do see him the feelings will come back.
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Fri Jun 26, 2009 9:28 am

grillyguy wrote:i do see what your saying but it was only 2/3 people, all the rest werent doin anything


So these 2 or 3 people aren't your friends and the "rest" aren't either, did one of them stand up and say don't be stupid, just let him say sorry and be done with it?
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby Bel Bel » Fri Jun 26, 2009 12:38 pm

i think you need to stop being so sensitive and stop worrying what others think all the time and just be yourself and anyone woethy of being your friend will want to be with you becasue they like you
If the condom thing was forced on you and you felt that you had to do it to keep them happy thats bullying and they aren't really worthy friends
If you were quite happy about it then don't worry
as for not going down the woods you don't have to do what others want you to do all the time, well done for doing what you wanted
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby grillyguy » Fri Jun 26, 2009 3:21 pm

thanks for your replies lol and i guess i am growing as a person with a lot of mistakes and problems along the way lol
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby Bel Bel » Fri Jun 26, 2009 3:54 pm

so you definately very normal then :lol:
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby grillyguy » Fri Jun 26, 2009 7:57 pm

lol yeah

just wish dean would go away somewhere, or if i could turn back time, make him like me back and things be good :) but obv i cant
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby grillyguy » Sun Jul 05, 2009 9:12 am

rite basicially i was with my bf for the first time yesterday in london with mates and one on my mates was acting really weird, ive been thinking for a while hes liked me. Anyways we were atr trafalgar square andthey weresetting up 4 pride, i cudnt go cos i wasnt allowed and i had plans and i really wanted 2 go pride.

yesterday i got a text from another mate saying dean was at pride in nothing more than a feather boa and braces i then got a message from my friend on fb -- the thread involved many people and was about friday and thenwe got on2 the topic of pride-- and said dean looked well sexy all naked -- the person that said this was the one that acted weird yesterday

and i got really annoyed at this friend for bringing up the past and stuff wen he didnt need 2say anything cos there was moer than dean at pride and im annoyed at myself for letting dean get me down.

ive talked 2 my boyfriend who said that i need closure on the whole thing and i tihnk hes right, he told me to get other peoples perspectives aswell so im gonna ask one or two other closefriends as i no my other friends will basicially tell me to shut up.

But if i do need closure i dont no how 2 get it
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby lidopig » Sun Jul 05, 2009 9:24 am

OMG your boyfriend is a SAINT O:)
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby grillyguy » Sun Jul 05, 2009 10:49 am

lol take it you think hes right then?
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby rufio89 » Mon Jul 06, 2009 8:07 am

I really dont think you should be talking to your boyfriend about this... I wouldnt like it if a boyfriend of mine started talking about a girl from his past..
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby Bel Bel » Mon Jul 06, 2009 9:42 am

YES I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND, time to get over it and move on
You really can't let this guy rule your life anymore he isn't even an ex just a guy you fancied, so what, big deal
I think you could actually be hurting your b/f feelings even though he isn't saying so
when someone mentions dean just pretend he is a totally different dean and make no comments. if you don't respond to what people say they won't wind you up
Of course the guy that mentioned him may have not realised how sensitive you were or he was deliberatley trying to get a reaction, either way ignoring any dean comments is the best way to go
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Re: been called a stalker but im not

Postby grillyguy » Mon Jul 06, 2009 2:21 pm

yeah kk thanks for the replies :D
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