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dying to see if he likes me

Postby heartfullalove » Fri May 08, 2009 11:32 pm

Hi,
I'm an 18-year-old guy in my last year at school. I haven't kissed a girl in ages, and I don't really want to any more. There's a new guy in my class who's gorgeous and really hot, and I can't stop fantasising about him. I've tried to fight these feelings, but they just keep getting stronger. He sits beside me in some classes and we get on well, but I've no way of knowing if he feels the same. I'm dying to make a move, but I'm so terrified of what might happen if it went wrong. What should I do?
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby morris mouse » Sat May 09, 2009 2:23 pm

"heartfullalove" to be honest,just because someone sits beside you in class DOESN'T mean that they're interested
in you (other than just talking to you)

I'm so terrified of what might happen if it went wrong.


This is a good way to be,as it shows that you would consider their feelings. :) Please take your time,getting to
really know them & see what happens.
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Mon May 11, 2009 9:49 am

morris mouse wrote: Please take your time,getting to
really know them & see what happens.


I agree
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby rufio89 » Mon May 11, 2009 9:52 am

Do you even know if this guy is gay?
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby heartfullalove » Mon May 11, 2009 12:05 pm

hi, honestly I've no idea if he is, but it strikes me as possible. Just a hunch really, somethin to do with the way he carrys himself and moves his hands...not much to go on, I admit. Its very difficult to tell. But he doesn't avoid me like lots of the boys do, I haven't come out but two of my girl pals know about it and they say they just knew even before I told them. So the fact he looks for me and talks to me and is so friendly, that seems a good sign. God, I hope! :lol:
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby Bel Bel » Mon May 11, 2009 12:09 pm

yes just take it slow
can you ask him to do stuff outside of school to give you more time away fom prying eyes.
he might open up a bit then
you could always tell him your not straight and ask if it bothers him
either way be prepared just to be mates if thats all you can be
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby heartfullalove » Wed May 13, 2009 12:38 pm

thanks a lot...its going quite well, walking home from school together and I asked him would he like to go swimming on Fri night, he said yes! So just have to see how that goes, can't wait for it! :lol:
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby snail » Wed May 13, 2009 2:42 pm

Hope it works out for you :D
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby Bel Bel » Wed May 13, 2009 2:59 pm

me too, keep us updated :D
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby heartfullalove » Wed May 20, 2009 12:23 am

hiya,
this is just driving me crazy! Went swimming with him fri night and he looked TOTALLY mouth-watering, I did my best to keep control...we've become good mates and there's quite a lot of direct eye contact, which just gives me tingles all over. had a couple of meaningful silences where I thought, should I snog him here, but still worried in case it's not what I think it is..
He mentioned - he asked me what girls I'm into, so of course i had to lie thru my teeth and rattle off a few actresses' names, forgot you're not meant to use words like 'lovely' and 'fabulous'...still think he could be gay though, maybe he was testing me?
My girl pal Nadine wants to bring me to a gay bar, that way I could pick up a man and not have to worry about finding out his sexuality first...its very tempting, but I can't get this guy out of my head..leavin school next month, the clock is ticking..what to do???
Sorry for going on and on!
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby rufio89 » Wed May 20, 2009 8:06 am

..leavin school next month


I say you go for it. He could well have been testing, maybe he's not sure if YOU'RE gay or not...

If you have a month left of school you have nothing to lose. If you tell him and he's not interested, then you dont need to see him again, and if he goes for it, then yay!

Good luck, let us know what happens.
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby snail » Wed May 20, 2009 11:35 am

I agree with Rufio that you shouldn't let him get away, although I don't think it's good that he asked you what type of girls you're into, and that you mentioned some! You have to be open about the fact that you're gay to him before anything can happen. His reaction to that revelation will probably indicate whether a relationship is a possibility. I certainly don't think you should do anything like snogging him without fully discussing it first. Look at it this way, if he was really your friend, you'd tell him about your sexuality anyway, wouldn't you?
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby RagDoll » Wed May 20, 2009 12:10 pm

snail wrote:You have to be open about the fact that you're gay to him before anything can happen. His reaction to that revelation will probably indicate whether a relationship is a possibility


I agree
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby lidopig » Wed May 20, 2009 4:05 pm

Him asking you about girls may well have been a leading question,sort of sticking his toe in the water :^o lets hope so! But I agree that you should ask/tell him outright as you have very little to lose if he's str8! Good luck anyways. [-o<
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Re: dying to see if he likes me

Postby morris mouse » Wed May 20, 2009 4:40 pm

Him asking you about girls may well have been a leading question,sort of sticking his toe in the water


I agree. I have to say,"heartfullalove" that you missed your chance there. :cry: :cry: I hope that you get another one
(chance) as he obviously means a lot to you.
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