Hi,
i don't know if you could call this a problem or a complaint, but its been bothering me a little. I'm 19, gay. Apart from a little kissing and fondling with other guys, I never had sex til last year. I've recently found this gorgeous smoking-hot guy and fallen totally for him. He's 25, sex on legs, and has really opened up my sexual world. He's really fit and well-built and I'm very slender and delicate, its a perfect match. The sex is incredible but sometimes I feel he's not all that interested in me as a person.
I'm not expecting candle-lit dinners or a huge white wedding, but sometimes I feel kissing and cuddling and meaningful conversation would be really lovely, and it seems to be almost entirely about sex.
Also lately, the sex just keeps getting more n more intense, which is wonderful, but lately he's started to call me names when we're being intimate and I don't know if I like that.
Maybe it's no big deal, but when I'm giving him oral pleasure or he's inside me, it feels so beautiful and then he'll say things like 'kinky slut' or 'whore' and it feels - like cheap, like that's what he thinks I am. And when we finish, he usually tells me he has to go somewhere, and it's always me who phones him.
Am I making too much of a big deal about this? I do love being his sex object, but I don't want to be seen as just a sex object. Is that stupid? My girl pal says she knows loads of girls who would give anything to be with him, and I'm lucky and should just enjoy it.
He's not at all nasty otherwise, and I couldn't give up the sex for anything. I know I could probably get any other man I want, but if I got a real romantic man I'd probably complain that he wasn't wild enough...
Sorry for taking ages to explain