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Others won't accept me

Postby MikeO » Sun Sep 07, 2003 7:53 pm

well, I'm Michael.. urm I'm havin loads of problems with my life at the moment.. I've just started school again ( Year 8 ) and I'm the only gay guy in like the whole year.. and all my old friends ( I dont have any now ) keep calling me queer..I dont wanna go back to school tomorrow... I'm all alone in the lessons.. I've been havin suicidal thoughts... not many.. but...I'm too shy to make new ones.. I'm not brave enought o come out to my mum and so she can help me with it... damn.. somebody help me...
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Postby sovs » Sun Sep 07, 2003 9:55 pm

Firstly, how do you know for sure your gay?
If your in year 8 you are what only 13.
If your finding it that hard to go back to school, i think you should tell your mum, if your feeling depressed like you do and are having these thoughts you got to tell her.
May be if schools so awful you could change schools to where noone knows.
Please speak to your mum as this will destroy all your confidence.

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Postby Lorelei » Mon Sep 08, 2003 1:12 pm

Yes, you are very young to think that you know for sure that you're gay, but, of course, you know your own mind better than us.

You know, we're always so scared to tell our parents things like being gay, being pregnant, etc. because we think they'd be SO shocked! But I know from experience that EVERY parent mentally prepares themselves for those possibilities. I bet your Mum has practiced in her head for the day when you might come home and say you're gay.

I recently told my Mum something about myself that I had kept from her for years and she said "Do you not think I know that already? You don't give me enough credit!"

If you really are gay, chances are your Mum already has her suspicions, you should just get it out in the open with her so she can help you through what's happening at school.

And never be afraid to change schools. When I was 16, I changed schools because of bullying and it was the best thing I ever did! It's not running away, it's just having a new start. And you're better off not coming out to your friends for another few years. You might be emotionally mature enough to know who you are but most 13 year olds are NOT mature enough to accept you. It'll be much easier in a few years, I promise.

But in the meantime, tell your Mum, she'll be able to help you!xxx
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Postby smile » Mon Sep 08, 2003 3:50 pm

When you are a young teenager I think a lot of people do question their sexuality. The important thing to remember is no matter if you are straight, gay bi etc. you are still yourself. Tell your mum how you are feeling and I'm sure she will accept you however you are. Society now is much more understanding for gay people and if your friends can't handle the fact it is their problem. Easy to say I know but you aren't missing out a lot if your friends treat you like that. Secondly you will make friends, give it time, when you are feeling a bit insecure it often is hard to find a way to socialise but if you just relax a bit when around people you will probably find that they want to be friends with you just as much as you do to them.

I have got to say suicide is not the answer. Ignore these thoughts in your head, imagine what it would put your mum through if you decided to end your life. It would be hell for her. Stay positive and take care,

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Postby MikeO » Tue Sep 09, 2003 5:43 pm

well guys/gals.. I sorted it all out.. I came out to my mum.. and I found out who were my real friends..

well, this dipsh*t called robert.. I said he was annoying... and then he spreaded loads of rumours to the new year 7's about me... and then he came up to me and said.. Nobody likes you, Queer.. so like... after that.. * waterworks :cry: * and then all my friends were like Dont worry Mike, we like you.. and then loads of ppl from my form came and like were spreading rumours about that robert guy...

( Robert is really upgly.. fat.. and has massive red hair.. so I like to call him a clown from now on . hehe )
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Postby sovs » Tue Sep 09, 2003 6:01 pm

Im so glad your friends have stuck by you.
People who are mean and spread rumours are usually self consious of themselves.
Did your mum take it ok?
Im glad your feeling happy now

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Postby Lorelei » Tue Sep 09, 2003 10:13 pm

Oh, I'm so glad that's all sorted out! Best of luck with the year!xxx
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Postby smile » Wed Sep 10, 2003 3:28 pm

I'm really glad you sorted it out. But just remember, two wrongs don't make a right! :D
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Postby Enigma » Thu Sep 11, 2003 12:13 am

Hiya MikeO.

In regards to the view that a person can't know that they are gay at a young age, well with the same logic then how could a young person know that they are straight? When I look back at my life I really knew that I like guys as well as girls when I was about eight years old.
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Postby sovs » Thu Sep 11, 2003 10:43 pm

I know Enigma. (I wish there was a emoticon with a tonge sticking out) hehe.
All i was meaning is that at that age your hormones are every where so how can you be deffinate.
I didnt mean to affend anyone purposely, am i forgiven? :(
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Postby Enigma » Fri Sep 12, 2003 8:22 am

You didn't offend me sovs, it's just that MikeO is posting about his problem regarding school and not about discovering his sexual preference.

A comforting thought for MikeO is that when I was at school I felt like I was the only person who liked people of the same gender. I've found out since then about some other people in my school year turned out to be gay/bi.
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Postby KoRn_Freak » Sun Sep 28, 2003 9:04 am

What I don't understand is why some people just can't accept the fact that it doesn't matter what your sexual preference may be as long as you're happy. I think it's a beautiful thing that people can find acceptance, love and friendship with people of the same sex.
I've met loads of friends in Manchester who have turned out to be bisexual or gay, and I never have a problem with it. Other people don't have the maturity to accept such things, but they're the kind of people you shouldn't waste your time over.

I'm glad you told your mum; in times of need, she'll be the one there supporting you no matter what people in your year say or do.

Just keep your real friends close and enjoy their company as best as you can :)

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Postby Lorelei » Sun Sep 28, 2003 1:46 pm

I agree, I sometimes think that saying "I couldn't fall for someone of the same gender" is as shallow as saying "I couldn't fall for a guy with a beard" or "a girl with brown hair."
If you're straight and in love, would you not still be in love with the PERSON if their essence was magically transferred into a person of the same gender as you?
People are people, we all have our preferences (Like hairstyle... and gender) but I think the day that people don't differentiate between falling for one gender or another will be the day that the world is truly enlightened about sexuality.
I know some people say that people of opposite genders should be together for procreation, but some people are infertile and some people are on the pill so what's the difference?
Sorry, I know this doesn't have much to do with the thread but I just felt like saying it because it's something I feel quite strongly about.xxx
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Postby jenniflower » Sat Oct 04, 2003 8:12 pm

calling that other guy in ur year fat, ugly, with big red hair is incredibly imiture and offensive u are being just as bad as someone who is racist or homaphobic. Im going to b really honest if you carn't take it you should look away from the screen now! maybe they are just using the gay card to pick on you because they just don't like you, kids are very cruel but you are being just as cruel by calling him a clown. Take the higher ground and be a little bit more sensitive about other peoples feeling and maybe they will be more sensitive to your's.
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