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IM CONFUSED, HAVE A BABY AND SLEPT WITH A LESBIAN

Postby SHERRIDAN1984 » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:52 pm

Please Help Me I Am 18 Years old, I have a baby and I have slept with a woman for the first time. I have had these feelings about girls since beofre I can rememberbut I also like men. I'm all confused, the thing is I'm the type of girl who knows what I want but thsi time I'm stuck. I have only told my closest friends what I have done but they keep saying that I shouldn't be doing this while I have a child to bring up. I really like this other girl and she feels the same way. I really don't want to hurt her feelings but I also don't want to hurt my friends. Please please help me.:oops:
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Postby sovs » Fri Oct 17, 2003 11:04 pm

If you like men and women it sounds like your bisexual.
If you want a relationship with this woman it is none of your friends buisness.
I dont believe this will affect you bring up your child, why should it?
Theres no difference to if it was a relationship with a man.
I think on this one you have to follow your heart and only you can make the choice.

Best of luck
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(p.s please could you write in normal size and not capitals) :wink:
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Postby Fidel » Sat Oct 18, 2003 2:59 pm

Hey - if u want to sleep with women do it!
No-one says u can't and it's no-ones place to frown upon it
Go 4 it

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Postby Lorelei » Sun Oct 19, 2003 1:11 am

I absolutely agree with Sovs and Fidel!
Many children are raised in same-gender relationships and I don't think it does any harm. If anything, it makes them more tolerant and open minded to their own, and their friends', situations in the future.
If you think you could be happy with this woman, why not give it a go?
Don't listen to your friends, it makes NO difference whether you like girls or boys or both! It's only physical appearance after all, they're all just people!
Go for it and best of luck!xxx
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Postby freakin' out babe » Sun Oct 19, 2003 3:20 pm

There's nothing wrong with being a lesbian and a mother at the same time.

I'm 22 years old and I am in a loving realtionship wth Sall my girlfriend I have been with for 11 months and I also have a 4 year old daughter.

Like you my friends weren't too keen on the idea of being a lesbian.
So I was a bit weary but after a while I realised it was me and only me I had to make happy not them.

So if it feels right.Go for it.

Good Luck.
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Postby cutie pie » Sun Oct 19, 2003 5:49 pm

Listen its up to you what kind of relationship you want whether it be with a man or a woman. being honest if your friends cannot accept this it shows you one thing you definately know who your friends are.

so do what your heart tells you to do!

take care xxx
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Postby JAMES2019832002 » Sun Oct 19, 2003 6:03 pm

well i think you should be able to do what you want to do and if your friends dont well their not your real friends are they? you shouldnt care what any other person thinks its your life live to the max!!!!!

p.s enjoy her while shes around if you like her

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Postby lilo » Sun Oct 19, 2003 11:21 pm

Hi Sherridan,

It makes no difference whether you have a relationship with a man or woman. Providing it is a healthy relationship ie you are happy and the other person involved is happy and there is no emotional or physical abuse etc!

Just follow your heart where the realtionship is concerned. If your friends are true then they will be there for you regardless of your decision.

And at the end of the day you don't need us to tell you to be a good mum to your baby I am quite sure you do that anyway!

So really there is no problem.........

Best of luck!
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