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Am i gay?

Postby lewis collins » Thu Feb 03, 2005 11:30 pm

They is this guy a college who keeps looking at me and hes touched me a few times.Does this mean i'm gay because i really dont want to be?
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Postby all_apologies » Thu Feb 03, 2005 11:32 pm

Unless you have feelings towards this man then I see no reason why you should be questioning your sexuality. If he has feelings for you, he might be gay, but that doesn't mean you are!
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Postby lewis collins » Thu Feb 03, 2005 11:40 pm

I dont have feelings towards him but it did feel nice.
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Postby all_apologies » Fri Feb 04, 2005 12:39 am

Do you mean it physically felt nice when he touched you? Did it turn you on sexually?

Or did it feel nice that someone was giving you attention?
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Postby captainf » Fri Feb 04, 2005 1:16 am

I doubt you are gay, you're just experimenting! As you say you dont have feelings for the guy, so you're probably straight.
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Postby lewis collins » Fri Feb 04, 2005 12:28 pm

all_apologies wrote:Do you mean it physically felt nice when he touched you? Did it turn you on sexually?

Or did it feel nice that someone was giving you attention?



It felt nice but it repulsed me at the same time.
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Postby BlueRayman » Fri Feb 04, 2005 12:35 pm

At the end of the day you can only do what feels right to you, that all any one can do. Maybe if you liked it on some level tell the guy that, but tell him you just want to be friends for now because you unsure about anything else.

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Postby lewis collins » Fri Feb 04, 2005 12:48 pm

I really dont want to be friends with the guy though. I hate him. From what i've seen hes arrogant, loud and moany.
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Postby arwen » Fri Feb 04, 2005 2:43 pm

The only person who can answer the question "Am I Gay?" is you. And that's not such a simple question to answer as it might first sound.

You're at college so you're not a kid BUT you're at a stage in your life where many people start to experince this sort of thing. It doesn't necessarily mean you are gay, maybe just curious, but if you are, it's not something you should be worrying over!

Only you know who you are attracted to, and as long as you're honest with yourself you have no reason to be unhappy.
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Postby Lilly1 » Fri Feb 04, 2005 3:20 pm

Your only Gay when you actually feel you want to be with someone from the same sex. You say that you hate this guy so I really dont think your gay. Have you ever wanted to persue anything with him? Have you had any sexual urges to be with him??

Your probably going through that stage where your becomming curius, its nothing to be ashamed of. Follow your Heart.
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Postby lewis collins » Fri Feb 04, 2005 4:24 pm

My heart says no lol.Does anyone have an idea of how i can get this guy to stop bothering me?
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Postby arwen » Fri Feb 04, 2005 4:30 pm

lewis collins wrote:Does anyone have an idea of how i can get this guy to stop bothering me?


The same way you would deal with unwanted attention from a girl, just be as plain as you can and try not to give out the "wrong" signals.

There's no need to hurt anyone's feelings but you mustn't lead them on either.
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Postby lewis collins » Fri Feb 04, 2005 4:41 pm

O.K thanks.
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Postby all_apologies » Sun Feb 13, 2005 12:30 am

lewis collins wrote:It felt nice but it repulsed me at the same time.


It was probably the actual feeling that you liked rather than the person touching you. Imagine you were blindfolded and someone touched you in a way that you liked. That person could be male or female, it still feels nice.

From the way you're speaking I don't think you're gay. You say you don't feel attracted to males, and the thought repluses you, so this is pretty clear imho.
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Re: Am i gay?

Postby Guest » Sun Feb 13, 2005 7:54 pm

lewis collins wrote:They is this guy a college who keeps looking at me and hes touched me a few times.Does this mean i'm gay because i really dont want to be?


You ever get an erection over a woman?
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