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Am I Bi?!?!

Postby dappychick88 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 6:48 pm

Heya guys. I hope someone out there can offer a little advice to me.

I recently started a new job and have started to like a girl there. Every now and then i have urges to kiss her. Is this the start of me becoming bi, as i also like blokes, or is it just a random phase im experiencing?!

Hope someone can give me a little advice... xAx
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Postby nothings_shocking » Mon Aug 08, 2005 7:10 pm

Hey,
I think rather then just jumping to the conclusion that you are bi you should find out.
Have you thought that you are just curious and want to experiment?
There are many young peple who are confused about their sexuality. Maybe you just need to experiment and see if you are actually bi sexual or whether it is just something your mind and body has worried about.
It may just be a phase, we cannot tell you the answer. We cannot tell you straight out that you are bi because you want to kiss a girl at work.
Maybe you just want to see what it is like to kiss a women?
Time will tell. You need to find out but do it in the right way.
You need to find out whether or not you really have proper feelings for both men and women.
Hope it makes sense...
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Postby dappychick88 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 8:32 pm

heya, thanks for ur advice - i feel happier now. So how would i go about finding out if i do have feelings for women?! i def no i hav feelings for guys, as have had a few longish relationships with them, but who knows?!

Thanks again,

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Postby nothings_shocking » Mon Aug 08, 2005 9:00 pm

well i wouldn't recommend kissing random women.
how old are you?
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Postby dappychick88 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 9:22 pm

hehe, well, i wudnt do that! lol

im 17 - nearly 18. u?

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Postby nothings_shocking » Mon Aug 08, 2005 9:42 pm

Good to hear!
Do you have any bi or lesbian friends that you can talk to about it?
They would have probably experienced what you are feeling. They would be more help.
We all have times where we think what would it be like to kiss another girl? what would it feel like? does it make me bi if i do kiss another girl?
This is what some girls think. It maybe different for you. Speak to bi or lesbian friends and see if they can help you out.
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Postby dappychick88 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 10:00 pm

i have no bi or lesbian friends, so that would be a small problem. hehe. I duno, i rekon its just a phase that im goin through, and that itl soon wear off. Have you had many people consult you about this before?
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Postby nothings_shocking » Mon Aug 08, 2005 10:18 pm

oh right erm...you maybe right, it may just be a phase.
If you search under girlfriends and boyfriends there are posts there.
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Postby Lorelei » Mon Aug 08, 2005 11:35 pm

I don't think you should be too worried about putting yourself in a category. Many people have the ability to be attracted to both genders under certain circumstances. At 17-18, you are bound to be curious about experiences that you have not yet had. Does it really matter if you're straight or bisexual? You're still you!

You have a crush on your workmate at the moment. Do you know if she's interested in women? If you are interested in men and women equally, something will happen between you and a girl you really like when the time is right. You may find out that it's just something you wanted to try once, or you may discover that it's something you would like to explore further. Either way, please don't worry. You don't have to label yourself as one thing or another until you are entirely ready to do so.xxx
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Postby Moose » Wed Aug 10, 2005 1:13 pm

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This is quite a good one to have a look at, and it's quite recent.
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Postby PoisonedWounds » Thu Aug 11, 2005 3:06 am

Don't worry about labelling yourself with anything, just go with the flow and see what happens. If you're out and end up kissing a girl then so be it, if that's what you want to do (obviously they would have to have some say in the matter) then don't fret!
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