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should i break up wid him

yes
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no and hopes it works out.
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do i dump him

Postby crasygurl » Sun Jun 08, 2003 6:44 pm

i saw my boyfriend to day,
every thing was going great,
till he told me there was something he always anted to do.

he evenually told me ask i asked him.
i mean i though it be his fantasy job, for some thing crasy and adventerous like him self.

but instead he said he wanted to marry a walsh gurl.
we been together 4 almost a year.
i feel second best now.

i really love him.
he told me for the first time 2 weeks ago he loves me,
ok it was over the phone,
because he finds it hard to express his feelings

any way i was going to tell him how i really feel about him,
but after what he said i cant.

i feel while he wid me not only am i second best,
but he looking for some one else in the mean time.

i told him i need some space but i really dont know what to do.
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Postby Westwood » Mon Jun 09, 2003 11:53 am

I voted "Yes" only because if my girlfriend told me she wanted to marry something I wasn't, I would feel worthless and unwanted.
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Postby crasygurl » Wed Jun 11, 2003 2:42 pm

well that is how i feel
he not planning to marry any walsh gurl yet.
but in the mean time while he with me i feel he looking 4 some one else.
i feel second best.
i haven't even chatted with since he told me on sunday.

because i just feel horrble.
ok i dont want to get married and did expect to be with him 4 ever as i am 18
we have been together almost a year in 2wks
but in the same time i feel hurt.

he told me he had this goal about marring a walsh gurl even before he met me.

he the only bloke i felt safe around and able to let get close to me.
i guess this is the main reason why i feel horrible.
but also because in the past my ex's cheated on me and left me for other women.

i dont want that to suddenly happen again. if meets a walsh or wakes up and tells me he realised now he wants to complete his goal so it is over.

people tell me that it may not happen.
but i not sure if i wanta take the chance of being hurt again.
is it worth it if you really love some one?
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Postby Westwood » Thu Jun 12, 2003 1:28 pm

There is really not much you can do about it except make him believe you are the one he wants, not some welsh scouter.
Relationships are built on 3 things....Love, Trust and Respect....If you ain't got them, you ain't got a relationship!!
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Postby crasygurl » Thu Jun 12, 2003 5:03 pm

i had it i decided 2 dump him,
if he finally turns his phone on.
i just hope i am doing the write thing.
i probably am just one prob,
he always manages to make me change my mind.
it not wrong to finally put mu self first 4 once is it.
he was never going to tell me.
i feel kinda ussed and tricked sorta as he kinda new how i feel about him and used this to get want he wanted.
but he also told me he love me,
so what if i make a mistake.

i guess i should go 4 it.
dump him, if he cares he try and stop and try and make it work if he dont well he do sod all and i finally know rite.?
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Postby crasygurl » Fri Jun 13, 2003 10:07 am

i couldnt dump him.
he said that he not going to marry a walsh gurl as the only one he knows is old and his nan.
i expalin to him how i felt and he told me that he has been hurt b 4 2.
i dont if told me that to reasure me or it gives him the rite to hurt me later.
because he sort mainly chatted about him self,
i notice that he was starting to get sorta selfish.

i was really happy last nite because he told me he looking 4 any body else.
but it dont feel like it.
i guess i need a bit more reasurence from him.

i meeting him next week.
i think our realtionship may work i am not sure.
i still feel second best.
i guess i being stupid,
but i cant help the way i feel
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