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casual or not confusion

PostPosted: Mon May 23, 2016 2:20 pm
by Gizmo
Hi, so I slept with a guy that i knew last year. We stayed friends and since then Ive started a relationship with someone else. The original guy and I are still friends. However, lately hes stopped messaging then starts again. If I see him around he holds my hand and pays a lot of attention. We recently had an evening together which was just talking , liatening to music and a few drinks. When i left he kissed me goodnight. He flirts but never comes to sex. I dont want to lose a friendship, and i know its wrong but i do like the guy. What is going on??!!

Re: casual or not confusion

PostPosted: Mon May 23, 2016 9:44 pm
by David020549
My guess is that the first guy knows you are in a relationship and is happy to socialise but does not want to complicate it with you. Having friends of the opposite sex is always going to be a problem if you are in a serious relationship, so you need to finish one relationship before you start another and in general ex boyfriends are not a good prospect second time round. So any male friends you may have don't send any wrong signals, no kissing or hand holding or messaging.

Re: casual or not confusion

PostPosted: Mon May 23, 2016 11:46 pm
by Gizmo
Thank you. When you see things written .down they become much clearer.