I've been lurking for a little while, sorta trying to get some advice on an awkward situation I've got caught in.
I've met someone at work, and we work very closely. It was all very innocent - we are/we're really good friends, work on projects together, have coffee. Neither of us are in relationships, so nothing sinister there. A few weeks ago I went to visit his new house, have some tea. Nothing untoward - showed me around the area, had a laugh. Nothing else came of it, and we didn't really plan another "outing". Fast forward three weeks and he's invited me over for dinner and wine. I went, it was kinda flirty and easy. We cooked together, talked about our pasts (mostly elaborating stuff we already knew from work), and watched films. He asked me to stay over, and we shared a bed, but nothing physical at all happened. I left early next morning.
A few days later, I text him that I was feeling awkward about that night. I don't often share beds, in my knickers, with someone I'm not dating, particularly a male. He was nothing but gentlemanly but I feel like it's blurred what kind of relationship we have. Somehow, I guess to prove that I wanted us to still be friends, I invited him over for dinner. We cooked again, lots of wine, and I offered him my spare bed. He declined, texting me later that he was worried because he didn't want it to take the "assumed" route, and make things awkward. So confused by this point.
At work, I made the decision to cool off the Friendship/banter a bit as I do have romantic feelings for him. He said nothing has to change but I feel like it does. He's told a work colleague he's been on "dates" with someone, which if that's me, I don't think I was aware Enough to think it was a date at the time.
I just don't know what all this was/is. I'm going on a date this weekend with someone completely unrelated and I'm kinda torn. How do i get over work guy? Were we on dates? Now what? Hate feeling so lost
