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i drank too much and caused problems with my boyfriend

PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2003 4:02 pm
by Loopy
A couple of weekends ago I went to visit my boyf, he lives in a different part of the UK so I only see him once in a while. We have a great relationship with a lot of trust and respect for each other.
However I've been having a lot of problems at home recently, my mum has developed a drug habit and we don't get on, I'm unhappy cos I'm so far away from my boyf and I'm generally feeling a bit down. When I arrived at my boyf's house, he realised pretty much straight away that there was a problem but I didn't want to burden him with my problems, so I just told him that I was unhappy at home and he did the usual boyfriend thing of being all caring and supportive which was good. What's the problem I hear you ask. Well the next night we went out with some of his friends and started drinking quite early. I thought I was handling my drink quite well although I was feeling very tiddly and close to black out stage until my boyfriend's housemate started talking to me, for some reason he triggered off all my problems and I decided to tell him EVERYTHING about what was happening at home. I remember telling him not to tell my boyfriend cos I didn't want to drag him down, but I'm so embarrassed cos I don't usually talk very much to my boyf's housemate and now he knows all this private stuff about me and I find it very awkward being in his company. I don't know whether to just carry on as normal as though it never happened or whether to talk to my boyfriend or what... My boyfriend hasn't mentioned it luckily but when I saw his housemate the next day he gave me one of those "I feel sorry for you" looks... What am I gonna do? Help!
Loopy xxx

PostPosted: Mon Mar 24, 2003 4:49 pm
by tammybligh
It doesn't sound as if you've caused problems with your boyfriend, but maybe you should talk to him about your problems... he may be hurt if he knew you had told somebody else and not him.
As for his friend, I'm sure he doesn't feel sorry for you, he probably just sympathises with your situation, but doesn't know how to help...

The best thing you can do is to get everything out in the open - talk to your boyfriend, even if it's on the phone. I'm sure he'll appreciate how difficult it's been to open up - and let's face it, we've all shared things with people when we're drunk that we normally wouldn't dream of telling someone (or maybe that's just me)!!!