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the blokes at work

Postby crasygurl » Tue Jul 29, 2003 9:13 pm

i work at a store part time.
every thing was going great when i first started,
then the blokes, a certain few started sexual harassing me.
after a while it died down.

problem is now they using my emotions to make fun of me.
i liked a guy,
but he weren't single
so they made fun of me 4 weeks.

then another guy told me he really like me.
i ended up liking him and told him.
our mate told him to tell me the truth,
turn out he was joking,
which upset me.

but now i found out he sleeps with any easy gurl going,
and people are saying i slept with him,
i haven't
as i dont do one night stands.

now every one making fun of me because i use to like him and to make matters worest they make out i a slut.
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Postby misatok11 » Wed Jul 30, 2003 12:50 am

This is a form of harassment. It is also affecting your workplace. This needs to stop. Your boss has a duty of care for you. Talk to him and tell him whats happening and that it's affecting your work. As for these workers just ignore it hun. if they can see it affects you they will keep at it. Hope you get things sorted.
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Postby crasygurl » Mon Aug 04, 2003 10:36 pm

i am totally fed up.
now the bloke i use to like telling every one i speading lies about him to people.
i am not.
i told him i wasn't.

he didn't believe me and started saying to people that i am easy when we never been out together less alone done any thing with each other.
so i told him the truth that his mate was telling people stuff about him.

and he been speading the lies about him doing stuff with gurl s he meets who seam to use him for sex.

and now his mates are being horrble even more to me.
ok maybe i shouldn't of told him who it was but i wasn't going to get the belame for some thing i didn't do.

and i didn't want the bloke i use to like to tell his mates lies about me,
that were very hurtful.
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Postby misatok11 » Tue Aug 05, 2003 7:25 pm

You need to get to the root of the problrm and find out who it is that started this and stop it. You really need to visit the boss and tell him all that is going on. :)
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Postby Emma__ » Tue Aug 26, 2003 6:58 pm

Don't let this get to you try to rise above them, get one over on him chat to your mates and tell them that you are seeing some really nice guy etc...... make sure that he knows about this and see what happens then,, he is either then going to start making up stories about you being a 2 timer or he will jelly up about you.

Play along on his level but do try to rise above it, let people know you are dating some georgous guy and that the 2 of you are getting on so well, he will then leave you alone and move onto his next victim. He just likes to look big infront of his mates, all the stories are complete false, the bloke probably hasn't even had a girl before.

Don't let it effect you to the stage you don't want to go to work, be strong and it will soon stop.

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Postby winnie3n » Tue Aug 26, 2003 7:08 pm

Hi Crazygirl

This is definitely a form a harrassment and as has been stated before, your boss has a duty to take care of you.

You have to remember if they are doing this to you, they will do it to other people.

Just go and talk to your boss about how you feel and ask his or her advice on how to stop it.

This is affecting your working life, which is completely different to your own personal life.

Harrassment like this should not happen in the work place, if they push it too far, it can be a sackable offence for them.

TALK TO YOUR BOSS

Take care


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Postby MelodyLinn » Wed Aug 27, 2003 10:36 am

Hiya, just to say i agree with winnie, misatok & emma. I say talk to your boss!

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Postby X_Smiler_X » Wed Aug 27, 2003 2:13 pm

I also agree, the best person to tell is your boss. He has the power to do something about it.

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Postby crasygurl » Wed Aug 27, 2003 6:50 pm

i was going to wait until i got my transfer,but i just got told i have 2 wait an extra 3 months even though i had the interview s they dont have any part time job avable.


the blokes are being a bit nicer to me.

one asked me out,
i glad i didn't say yes as he asked some one out 2 times later..

they started to make fun of my family abusing me,
they didn't mean to begin wid,

the bloke said some tobegin wid that upset me and i ended up telling him how they treated me,
it just come outta me mouth,
so it my own fault.

then we becames friends a few weeks later,
only problem is now he asked me and my sister and brother,
i explained i can't see them.
he then said what did i do to make my family hate me so much.
i ended up crying,
every time i see him,
he always laughting,
he hasn't even said sorry.

i cant even look at him in the face,
their no point me telling my boss as he cant make the bloke say sorry and mean it.
but i just feel scared of every one now i know it sounds stupid.

part from this the rest of the guyz at work are being real nice to me now.
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Postby X_Smiler_X » Wed Aug 27, 2003 11:03 pm

Thats good, maybe they started to realise they were being very immature, and there was no need for it.
Hope work goes okay from now on!

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Postby sovs » Thu Aug 28, 2003 12:34 am

I think your best bet is to not have conversations with them.
Keep your answers short and they should get the message.
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Postby Anjelica » Mon Dec 11, 2006 9:52 pm

hiya unfortunately i can relate to your predicament, it was like reading my own journal. I work in a store and ive liked some huys i worked with and although i am very shy i made the mistake of letting them know and they humilitated me. twice this has happened and it has left me feeling like im a total loser and a slapper. ya know. to make matters worse the guy i liked who dissed me.... dated and slept with my friend and showed total disregard to my feelings as well as me having to be ridiculed on a daily basis. I can tell u it didnt make me feel good but i have recently got a new joba nd hopefully can make a fresh start. Im not advocating leaving your job but im just saying for me i found getting my self respect back and being happy more inportant. If people want entertainment let them go to the movies. Im not paid enough to put up with that eh. I hope that helps and good on ya for not conforming. ur not alone.. :roll:
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