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Friend Can't Stop Lying And It's Always Me That Gets Hurt

PostPosted: Wed Mar 26, 2003 5:59 pm
by Shotta
I have a friend at school, who I'm very close to, and we talk a lot about things, I tell her everything and such and I like her a lot, and she claims to like me to. However whenever one of her other friends asks her about something to do with me or something we have spoken about and I mentioned to them, she always denies it and starts a scene in front of them calling me a liar and completely humiliating me in front of her and my own friends. This has happened on three occasions so far and she's always lying about little things we speak about, she can't seem to admit anything she says. I ask her why later and she always says that we never even discussed what I was "lying" about.

The most recent was today, I was supposed to be going to the end of year prom with her cause I asked her back in January, and a friend of mine and hers asked her quietly in a lesson today if she was going with me and she said she was. However this friend then went and told another guy that likes her and he asked her about it at Lunch and she denied ever saying it, telling me I was lying. I could do nothing but leave and open up to one of my teachers. I don't know what to do about her, I wonder why she always tells me things and says she likes me and such, and then when somebody asks her, she denies it totally. If she's embarrassed about admitting it cause it's me, that just hurts more, cause I don't see why she should be embarrassed about the way she feels for someone else...

I really don't know what to do, my teacher told me that I should just try and forget about her but I care about her that much that I cannot bring myself to do it, even though I know that I always end up getting hurt.

Anybody got any solutions or thoughts they could toss my way to help me understand why she does this? They'd be greatly appreciated...

PostPosted: Mon Mar 31, 2003 10:38 am
by Sally_4u
Hi :)
I think you should leave her alone, it's obvious she doesn't like you like as much as you do her. And as for the prom - let her do what she wants - she'd probably admire you more if you just leave her to it and just stay friends.
Sally

PostPosted: Mon Mar 31, 2003 1:52 pm
by tammybligh
I think that this girl has obviously got a lot of problems. It sounds to me like she may just be a compulsive liar, in which case, she probably believes what she is saying is true. If this is the case, then it's quite possible that she's like it with everyone. I'm sure she doesn't mean to hurt you.

Are you aware of any problems she may be having? Most people lie to make their lives sound more interesting, or to stop people finding out about something. Maybe it's worth sitting her down and talking to her about it.

It may not be this at all, but what have you got to lose. Even if I'm wrong, at least it'll show her how much you care.