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Postby netballluva » Mon Feb 18, 2008 11:37 pm

Okay, so have someone who I call my best friend and we are both 15. We have been best friends since we were about 4 and seriously since that age you couldnt have got two girls who were closer than we were. That was until about 12 months ago when another girl joined the equation. I mean we always had other friends that we would hang around with, but this time my best friend started getting REALLY close to this other girl. I didn't mind, I got along well with the other girl too, but it was the fact that my best friend and the other girl got really friendly and the other girl started inviting her out places without me. I know that sounds really childish, but when you have done everything together since the age of 4 it kinda hurts!

Nothing really changed between my best friend and me though. We were still really close, but I have a horrible feeling we are going to drift apart. We are still close at the moment, but not as close as how we used to be. I have found out from others of our friends that she has told them stuff that she hasn't told me and it's killing me! I haven't done anything to abuse her trust or anything like that! Sometimes I feel like she doesn't want to tell me stuff coz she's too embarassed! But I don't know why coz she used to tell me everything no matter how bad it was.

I really don't know what to do, I feel so sad that we are drifting. I really want it back how it used to be :cry:
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Postby Bel Bel » Tue Feb 19, 2008 1:56 pm

Some friends just drift apart
I had a friend from age 10 when i moved to a new junior school
We stayed friends for years. I had a baby then 5 years later she had one and we used to take the kids places
When my daughter started secondary school the girls drifted apart as the age gap really showed and we drifted apart as friends who socialised regularly
I will still always be there for her and we keep in touch but it's just not the same anymore
We did everything together for about 20 years
I now have another friend who I would call my best friend just because we go out and laugh our socks off together
It is sad. You could try having a chat with her but it won't necessarily change anything
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Postby HappyGoLucky » Tue Feb 19, 2008 2:34 pm

I was friends with a girl when I was 6 years old till I was 11 years old. We did most things together too! But she brought another girl in (I was fine with the girl) but still feel quite left-out! So I tried to talk to her about it but it ended up in an argument!

Soon, we did get back together, but things just wasn't the same anymore. And we got into little arguments too till we just stoped talking to each other and drifted apart. I was very sad at that time, but now I realise we'd probably have drifted apart sooner or later because we weren't really that close!

After that, I did try to talk to her a little, like asking her random questions for the sake of being a little friendly but she never ever talked to me unless I did ask a question. I guess I couldn't be bothered anymore and we haven't talked at ALL since the last time which was about 2 years ago!

Now I have my own friends that I'm happy with. Even if you try talking to her, I don't think it would make much difference and could possibly put a strain on your friendship. It is sad when we drift apart with our friends but life does go on, and in the end, there's nothing much we can do about it. Just continue to be friendly and try to get to know other people more.
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Postby netballluva » Tue Feb 19, 2008 5:27 pm

Everyone always used to say that we would probably drift apart as we got older and we always used to think that would never ever happen. :cry:

I never thought it would and now it is its horrible. But I don't really have anyone who I can trust as much as her and I can't just let us drift apart coz then ive got no one! :cry:
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Postby snail » Tue Feb 19, 2008 6:07 pm

I don't think you're being childish at all - it's perfectly natural to feel how you do. I'm 20 years older than you and I'd feel exactly the same. But remember, your friend may be getting something different from this other girl - not better, just different. It's fine to have more than one close friend - don't feel it's a "me or her" situation. Any new friendship doesn't wipe out all the things you and your friend have shared and been through together.

Try not to worry too much about what this other girl and her do or don't do, just concentrate on enjoying your time with your friend. If you still have a lot in common, there's no reason for your friendship to come to an end. And it's fine if you wanted to explore making other friends too. I'm sure you have room in your heart for plenty of special people.
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