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billy no mates??

PostPosted: Thu May 07, 2009 5:18 pm
by babydee86
i have pretty much not been single for 8 yrs and as a result don't have many friends.
im 23 and was popular in school only my school was in a totally different area to where i live so when i left i only stayed in touch with me best mates but even that only lasted a yr or two....we all just started living our own lifes and drifted apart.
i had plenty of friends in my area but everyone had fallings out (even tho all of the r chummy again these days!!! and some dodgy characters anyway!!)
and i moved away with my ex bf, with my ex when i moved away it was just me and him all day every day and i was so in love i did't even miss having mates...but through him i met my BEST FRIEND she really is a angel but other than that i have no one really . i split with my ex nearly 2yrs ago and got with someone else but he knows no one i know (compleatly different area) so again its just me and him (well he has loads of mates, but even their gfs don't seem very friendly or ever make attempts to becme my friend or stay in touch) i am on facebook and some of my old school mates say 'lets meet up!!' but it never comes to anything...they seem to have loads of money to go ut all the time but i don't!!
and then there is work...every1 lovely but all lot older than me and again we just never arrange to go out or anything!!
i just to have loads of mates and a right laugh like i used to but don't know how?????

Re: billy no mates??

PostPosted: Fri May 08, 2009 9:52 am
by dipsydoodlenoodle
babydee86 wrote:i am on face book and some of my old school mates say 'lets meet up!!


Why don't you make the effort to organise it, you can't always rely on other people to do the organisation (I'm not saying you aren't organising it - just in your post you haven't said). If people say "lets meet up" then ask for when would be good for them, then set a date ASAP. I met an old school friend that I hadn't seen for around 9 or 10 years, we just agreed to meet for coffee initially for just a couple of hours rather than going in at the deep end and spending ages and ages together.

Re: billy no mates??

PostPosted: Fri May 08, 2009 11:40 am
by Bel Bel
I agree with dipsy and you could joina club doing a hobby you enjoy to meet new people
remember all that is written on facebook is not necessarily true and a photo of a good night out doesn't show the whole picture of what it was really like
Some people have no friends so be glad you have your best friend. Does she have other friends you can get to know?

Re: billy no mates??

PostPosted: Fri May 08, 2009 3:42 pm
by babydee86
yeah i have actually met a few people through my best friend but would't want her to think i was mussleing in on her friends!! lol
i know i should be grateful that i even have sum friends!! and i am but still feel somethings missing u know?
also its a good point that i should do the arranging if i really want it to happen but will i seem a bit sad and pushy????

Re: billy no mates??

PostPosted: Mon May 11, 2009 10:07 am
by dipsydoodlenoodle
babydee86 wrote:also its a good point that i should do the arranging if i really want it to happen but will i seem a bit sad and pushy????


If one of your friends suggests a meet up and says a time and date do you think they are pushy? No!

It's not pushy trying to organise a get together with friends. As I said I just recently got in touch with an old school friend; she said would I like to meet up? - it wasn't pushy. I said yes, she asked when the best days for me were, I told her, she suggested a date. It's not pushy at all.

If you never organise anything then your friends won't include you all the time because it will seem like you just can't be bothered with them.

Re: billy no mates??

PostPosted: Mon May 11, 2009 11:41 am
by babydee86
yep your so right defo going to make the effort and stop waiting for things to come to me!!
thanks for the advise guys xxxx

Re: billy no mates??

PostPosted: Mon May 11, 2009 12:23 pm
by dipsydoodlenoodle
No problems; let us know of your success when it happens :)