Hi i hope you dont mind a rant but i need to get this off my chest as its doing my head in at the moment.
I have been freinds with a girl for a number of years and we are part of the same social group which all generally go out together and chill out at a few of the freinds houses. Me and the one girl have always got on and have been good freinds, after a house party at my one of the groups house and a few drinks one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. Since then she has been rather distant and hardly answering a text message (minimum answers) etc. We had a chat but not anything about feelings just as mates and at the time i thought that was what we both wanted to remain as things were. We have seen each other as part of the group as normal and i thought this would be ok. However, i am finding it wierd now and starting to want to be more than freinds, i think about her alot since and it is starting to mess with my head.
I thought about telling her what i have been feeling but havent really had the chance for us to talk on our own (i hate talking about serious stuff on the phone) , as we were all going out on sat i thought i would find a moment and maybe have a chat and kinda test the water, however as the night went on she met an ex in the one pub we were in and they were talking all night and ended up kissing. Now i dont know what to do, i'm taking that as she obviously doesnt like me in that way otherwise she wouldnt have done it while i was in the same pub etc.
She has always said in the past she didnt want anything to happen between us as it would ruin our freindship etc, however now it has im not sure if she is still kinda of thinking that if nothing comes of it then nothing will have changed thats why she is being distant etc. Now i am thinking about her all the time and am wondering what to do. Im not sure if its the whole dont want to ruin the freindship thing causing her to distance herself from me or if she just doesnt feel the same at all. I dont want to proper kill of the freindship by telling her that im starting to want more and declaring my feelings as we will see each other alot as all part of the same group of close freinds. So confused and what doesnt help is most of the group dont know whats gone on, so i cant really talk about it with anybody. So should i just leave it and take her necking her ex as the clear sign that she doesnt want anything or should i just come out with what i want to say.