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Spoilt Birthday

PostPosted: Thu Aug 05, 2010 3:55 pm
by Slingers
Hello there, long time no post. Unfortunately a situation has arose where I need some good advice, and I am too worried to speak to the people in case they don't take me seriously and think I am lying. Well here goes, basically I had planned a birthday party for me and some friends for my 17th at my house. I had spoken about it to my Mum but we didn't communicate properly and unfortunately some details got left out. Anyway, just before the party my parents decided that they were uncomfortable with me having my friends round and didn't trust me. So I had the task of sending them home again, now I've pretty much fallen out with my friends and because of my Mother, I have to pick up the pieces. I want my friends to understand that I didn't do it out of maliciousness or spite, and it pretty much ruined my birthday when it was out of my control.

Re: Spoilt Birthday

PostPosted: Thu Aug 05, 2010 5:40 pm
by snail
Well, I really think your parents should have known it would cause you grief with your friends and ruin your birthday, and been a bit more understanding. But all you can do is explain to your friends exactly what happened and that it wasn't your fault. Your friends will probably calm down in a while and realise that anyway.

Re: Spoilt Birthday

PostPosted: Mon Aug 09, 2010 9:12 am
by ILoveChristmas
It seems quite easy to say your parents were being unreasonable and that they shouldn't have caused that kind of trouble for you, but...

"I had spoken about it to my Mum but we didn't communicate properly and unfortunately some details got left out."

What details got left out and how important were they? What i'm getting at is you saying "mum, i'd like to have a couple of friends round" isn't the same as saying "mum, i'm having 50 mates round to get plastered.". If that's the magnitude of what details were omitted then it's easier to understand your mum's position.

As for your friends, well there isn't much you can do apart from apologise. If it were me who'd been turned away i'd feel more sorry for you than angry with you. It was your party that was ruined after all. What do they say?