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Bizarre situation

Postby Thegatsby » Mon Oct 23, 2017 8:25 am

Hi.
A Friend of mine is in a bizarre situation.
She is in her late 20's and has a friend who is in his early 60's.
They are both married.
He lavishes her with gifts and even paid for her honeymoon to the Bahamas.
He is quite wealthy.
The thing is they go out drink together and stay in hotels and have been abroad together.
He brought her a car for 10,000.
They even stay in hotels when he has a house in the same city(his wife is there).
They used to work together and he was known for giving gifts to the other young lady's that worked for the company.
Others have said he's said my friend is his girlfriend but it is hearsay.
When they stay in hotels she says they stay in separate beds.
To me I see this as being a rather strange situation and I'm genuinely worried for her.
Her husband doesn't mind and not sure how much his wife knows as he works away a lot.
Should I be worried for her that she is getting into a weird situation.
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Re: Bizarre situation

Postby David020549 » Mon Oct 23, 2017 4:18 pm

It's not all that bizarre, of course they don't share the same bed, that's her story and she's sticking to it. It sounds like a sugar baby situation and his wife is probably aware of the friendship as well as her husband. At late 20s she is a big girl and knows the risks, there is nothing you can or should do, it takes all kinds to make a world. If he is mega rich and a nice guy too then money talks and more women than you think would want an arrangement like this.
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Re: Bizarre situation

Postby Thegatsby » Mon Oct 23, 2017 10:43 pm

Thanks for the reply.
What does he get out of the relationship??
He's not mega rich just well off.
The thing that I don't understand is why would the husband/wife be ok with the situation??
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Re: Bizarre situation

Postby David020549 » Tue Oct 24, 2017 7:30 am

If he is giving gifts in the thousands he has a lot more money than you realise
What does he get - sex, companionship and a big ego boost that the can still pull a younger woman.
She is in love with her husband not the boss, willing to accept his attentions and his gifts for the time being.

Her husband is madly in love with her and tolerates her behavior because it makes her happy and he cannot provide that lifestyle. There are men who are partners of women who work as escorts that also accept and sometimes even promote sex work of some kind. The risk to your friend is not that he may decide to divorce, that probably would not bother her but that he might get violent and cause serious harm.

If he is away from home regularly his wife would be pretty sure that he was having an affair and the majority would divorce but not all. After a long marriage and family her social status revolves around him, she has a nice house, a generous income and is proud to be Mrs Jones, divorce changes all that. An example of that is Jeffrey Archer, a notorious philanderer, his wife Mary interviewed after one public scandal commented " divorce never murder maybe".

As I said it takes all kinds--------
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Re: Bizarre situation

Postby Thegatsby » Tue Oct 24, 2017 8:47 pm

Thanks a lot David.
How do you know so much about the subject??
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Re: Bizarre situation

Postby David020549 » Wed Oct 25, 2017 3:27 pm

LOL, because men are so predictable. This "wealthy" man is a charmer not a groper, he flatters girls and gives them presents to get attention, most don't respond ( other than accepting the present) but maybe one in 20 do, then they're hooked. To be topical he is the opposite of Harvey Winestien. He wants a willing and attractive mistress that will come running when he calls, they of course maintain a veil of propriety but most don't believe a word. Your friend might maintain the friendship for many years or it could end next week, it depends how long it suits her.

Wives of wealthy men often have to cope with affairs, the men are always targeted by single women ( Rooney got caught recently) divorce is often a last resort but wives do exact a price. Typically a wife will have a business of some kind that is backed by him, so she is independant to an extent, she will have a social status that she values, a couple in their 60s could have many family ties. His wife will think very hard before she leaves him because he plays away.

It's all complicated don't rock the boat she will need a friend when it finishes - it will one day.
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