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No friends-how can i meet people?

Postby Weapon69 » Mon Apr 19, 2004 12:15 pm

Its in the title really. I moved in with my bf a year ago. Unfortunately i'm about 130miles away from where i used to live so i don't see any old friends. I got a job here and i made friends with one girl who is going to Turkey for 9months now. My work is mainly older people so making friends there is impossible, plus the job is awful anyway.

So how do i go about meeting people? or making friends, i have become incredibly isolated since moving in with my boyfriend and going out by myself just causes arguements?

Any advice? Thanks
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Postby elgaz » Mon Apr 19, 2004 12:41 pm

Have you any hobbies? Then find a local club where you can explore these hobbies, you're bound to find other people with similar interests. Films/Reading/Cars/Sports/etc

If you're interested in any type of further education you could do nightclasses in a variety of subjects, or take up something like aerobics/karate/etc - another good way of meeting people and making new friends.

Making new friends doesn't mean you have to isolate your boyfriend either, or vice versa. Perhaps you and him could take up something together and meet other couples who you could become friends with :)

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Postby Weapon69 » Mon Apr 19, 2004 12:50 pm

thanks :) I thought about that stuff but boyfriend isn't interested in going out at all. And as i'm pregnant i can't really take up many hobbies such as sport. I'm pretty depressed about being so lonely to be honest. :cry:
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Postby smile » Mon Apr 19, 2004 1:18 pm

Hiya,

Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you are feeling low because you feel lonely. You could take up a new hobby that you wouldn't normally think of doing. Do a search on the net and find your nearest adult college. There are many different courses that you can take up from anything such as arabic to things like knitting.

It probably is best to talk to your boyfriend though and tell him exactly how you feel. He may not realise that you feel depressed.

All the best,

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Postby Weapon69 » Mon Apr 19, 2004 1:39 pm

Yeah, i might investigate short courses :) Boyfriend knows im depressed and doesn't care.
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Postby Fidel » Tue Apr 20, 2004 7:59 pm

Just get yourself out to a pub or a club and just socialise. Work is the best place but so what If you have an older friend?
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Postby Weapon69 » Wed Apr 21, 2004 9:06 am

Fidel when i say my colleagues are older, i mean they are extremely bitchy women in their 60's. i'm nearly 21 and it just doesn't work. It's my birthday coming up soon and tbh i'm dreading it :cry: Pubs/clubs aren't suitable as i'm pregnant and it caused enough arguements going out when i wasn't expecting!
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Postby Fidel » Wed Apr 21, 2004 5:26 pm

well, I just thought,,,,my mum is friends with a woman in her 20s
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Postby Moose » Sun May 02, 2004 7:17 pm

Have you thought about maybe moving back to your real home? I know you have a baby on the way, but your boyfriend doesn't sound very considerate if he doesn't care that you're lonely and depressed. Has he got many friends? Surely when you're pregnant, you need people around you who are going to support you, not people who don't care that you're lonely and depressed.

Incidentally, my best friend is 42 and I'm 21 - we met at work. People think the gap is too much but I don't very much care. But like you say, your co-workers are in their 60s and bitchy.

Good luck and please keep us posted
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Postby Weapon69 » Wed May 05, 2004 12:55 pm

Hi Moose

Yes i have thought about moving back to where i was brought up. Unfortunately since i moved in with my bf, my only remaining grandparent moved to Manchester which is a good few hundred miles away!! :o I have never lived with my parents and i could not go and live with them. So i'm one of those people who has 'slipped thru the net' shall we say and i really do have no one. I bitterly regret moving in with this man as my life as it is really is not worth talking about. I see NO ONE all day and i mean NO ONE at all, no one even to talk to on the phone. Prime example being the other day when i fainted in a shop and smacked my head. There was no one to phone-they must have thought i was nuts, they couldn't believe a pregnant young woman had no one to look after her or take her home. It really brought it home to me just how much sh!t i'm in if, obviously in later months, i go into labour blah blah.
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Postby Moose » Wed May 05, 2004 6:06 pm

I have had another idea. You could get a new job. I know, not as easy as it sounds (I can't get a new job at the moment either - I've been looking for 6 months) but you could try. What do you do? What do you like doing? In any case, I think you need to leave this man as he sounds useless from what you've said. Sometimes you need thigs like fainting and smacking your head and having no one to call, just to make you realise how bad things are. You need to move forward NOW.
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Postby Bubble » Wed May 05, 2004 10:35 pm

Clubs, or even an evening class?
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Postby kindredspirit » Wed May 05, 2004 10:58 pm

Just a thought but what about volunteer work? That way you're not tied down to it, you can help as much or as little as you like and there are hundreds of different volunteer things that go on. Might be something that interests you.

Do you go to antenatal classes? I don't know much about pregnancy but there are classes aren't there? Might meet a few other mums your age? Also, might be useful when you give birth teehee! :lol:

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Postby brfc » Tue Dec 21, 2004 4:22 pm

im in the same boat as you im new to an area and the people i work with are either to old boring or foreign dont speak english. thought alot about moving away again but i guess i have to get out and try to meet some new people. went into a local cafe the other day and people started chatting to me! made me relise there are nice people in my neighbourhood just got to get out and meet them. tell your b/f that you both need some nights out. get out of the situation of staying in with no one to speak too. go for meals or a little walk. just something to get you out and about. let me know how you get on sweet take care
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Postby paganstar » Wed Dec 22, 2004 7:48 pm

Why dont you sign up for the parent craft classes you will meet other mums to be in your area,these women will then be going to baby clinics later on when the babys are born,you will make friends there and even if your boyfriend dont want to go with you go on your own,i did that when i was expecting my first child and that was 15 years ago i made quite a few good friends im still in contact with now :D good luck
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