Urgent!! My friend is suicidal

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Urgent!! My friend is suicidal

Postby josherjoshing » Tue Apr 20, 2004 4:26 pm

my friend has decided to kill herself on saturday, she says its inevitable and she hasnt said anything to suggest that the situation is going to change at all. she has agreed to talk with me about her problems, but she is stubborn and refusing offers/ suggestions of help.
please tell me what to do, i cant coipe anymore
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Talk to her

Postby 100%Babe » Tue Apr 20, 2004 4:39 pm

You seriously need to talk to her, find out her problems and try and resolve them, tell her she might find it better if she maybe come on here and talks to us, if she says no then just be with her, make her feel loved and cared for, stay withher aslong as you can. tell ehr you can understand as everyone goes through bad patches. killing herself is not the answer to everything, its just a shortcut that will never be resolved. tell her that if she kill's herself how others will feel and might lead them to depression. maybe take her to a psycatrists whichever you spell it, or call someone really close to her.
I hope everything goe's well and she's ok.
Tell her to message me if she want's to talk to me also a girl and i can talk to her im always here for a chat
:D
things will look betta :o
and im sure she wants to thank you for being such an improtant friend
but im worried about you, yo shouldnt have to deal with all of this, its best if you let someone else no, if she kill's herself you might blame yourself,
let her family no, why is she so upset and like that?
let me no maybe email me :) xxxxxxxxxx
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Postby smile » Tue Apr 20, 2004 4:44 pm

Hi,

This link may be of use to you.

http://www.mind.org.uk/NR/rdonlyres/E67D6E58-1ADE-4576-9EAB-95E0453FF26A/0/Howtohelpsomeonewhoissuicidal.pdf

Or you could tell her to call the Samaritans on 0845 790 9090 . You could even call them with her.
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Postby umistgirl » Tue Apr 20, 2004 4:45 pm

Firstly i'd tell someone else, her parents or relatives, imagine how distraught they would be if their daughter was considering suicide and someone knew and hadn't told them.

Maybe her parents can bring her round, after all they know her better than anyone else. You also need to seek professional help on her behalf as potentially this is a very serious situation. Try ringing the samaritans for more advice.

Hope she see's sense.

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Postby smile » Tue Apr 20, 2004 4:54 pm

On a second note it's good that she has decided to talk about her problems with you. Although it is a big strain on you atleast she maybe having second thoughts about suicide. My only advice is to be there for her and reassure her that she can get through this.
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Postby josherjoshing » Tue Apr 20, 2004 4:59 pm

thankyou loads, uve been a great help, i am talking to her and following ur advice and, just doing everything i can, ill try and get her to come to this site because the problems are hers and not mine to talkk about
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Postby 100%Babe » Tue Apr 20, 2004 6:12 pm

HIya, im having a talk with your friend and she is really nice, it looks as thought she isnt going to go through with it, its just that girls will always have those days were they upset but hey!
she is genuinly nice and im not just sayin that!
you lucky to her and and she is to you
Xxxxx
hope my advice helped
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Postby josherjoshing » Tue Apr 20, 2004 6:36 pm

thankyou so much, i really hope u have helped her because othewise i wouldnt know WHAT to do
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Postby 100%Babe » Tue Apr 20, 2004 7:58 pm

i think she is opening up and we are getting along great!, i fink that you are ok, and she is gonna be ok, she just needs ti let her feelings out to a girl her own age, are you best friends or much more?
how old r ya xxxxxxx
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Postby Fidel » Tue Apr 20, 2004 7:58 pm

well I just hope everything goes okay :D keep us posted
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Postby Enigma » Tue Apr 20, 2004 9:47 pm

100%Babe wrote:...it looks as thought she isnt going to go through with it, its just that girls will always have those days were they upset...
100%Babe, just because someone that expressed thoughts about killing themself has now said they won't do it, this does not mean that suddenly everything is fine and all problems are solved. Quite a large percentage (can't recall specific statistic) of people that think about commiting suicide actually go through with the act within six months. People who self-harm are 100 times more likely to attempt suicide.
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Postby 100%Babe » Wed Apr 21, 2004 9:47 pm

Yea well i no that! im stillt alking to er. i aint dumb yea !.and my friend once cut her writsts and shes fine and great and never been happy,
its odbious that fi they think about it and that jst cause i talked to them everythings hunky dory. no shes still gonna have this feelings so .!
anyways hope everything goes great and you too get to talk :) xxxxx
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Postby Enigma » Thu Apr 22, 2004 12:20 am

100%Babe wrote:i aint dumb yea !
Opposing comments you make is not calling you dumb. We're not going to agree on everything.
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Postby Fidel » Thu Apr 22, 2004 4:20 pm

Please do not turn someone else's problem topic into a slagging match. The author wants help, not to read your opinions on another member of the forum.

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Postby 100%Babe » Thu Apr 22, 2004 5:04 pm

ok yea, im havin a real bad day,sit down ur friend and talk, xxxx wit my other advice
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