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Postby helenisagoddess » Tue Jan 25, 2005 1:09 pm

Hiya

I moved away to uni this October and for the first term had an amazing time. We all got along and went out clubbing and having SUCH a laugh. I started a relationship with one of the guys' friends who lives about half an hour's drive away (I've written about our relationship before) which became 'official' over the Christmas holidays. I'm really in love with him and I see him every day. Maybe too much as my friends seem to have started planning things without me. Just silly little things like going to do their laundry or on a walk without inviting me. It does hurt a bit and I'm starting to think that they don't like me any more. My boyfriend says I'm being silly but I really love them and can't help wondering because wherever I go there always seems to be someone who just doesn't like me for no reason. I think maybe I should stop seeing my boyfriend every day and spend more time with just them, as although we do socialise with them, he does always seem to be there. What do other people think? I know I'm totally infatuated with him and it'll calm down but I do see him every day except when I have to do work and even then he'll come over when I'm finished.
I just don't want them to hate me, as I'm living with them next year too.
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Postby Lilly1 » Tue Jan 25, 2005 3:32 pm

Hiya,

I think you should sit down with your mates and a bottle of vino and just come out and ask them if they mind you spending so much time with you guy. I think you might find they say no, dont be silly. In which case you can carry on with your boyf. If they say yes then at least you have bought the subject up and you can sort it out from there, maybe have a couple of set nights you go out with your Girl/F and then everyone is happy!

I think they would appreciate it if you just came out and said something to them.

Good Luck x
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Postby SugarRainbows » Tue Jan 25, 2005 5:13 pm

Lily1 is right, they might just think they r giving you and your guy space and dont realise its hurting you, nothing bad can come from chatting with them about it :)
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Postby JennaXXX » Tue Feb 01, 2005 1:36 pm

Sometimes friends can feel a bit pushed out once a new boyfriend comes on the scene.
Make time for your friends. Ok so you are in love with your guy but your friends will be there for you always.
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