friends driving me up the wall...

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Postby nothings_shocking » Tue May 24, 2005 12:13 pm

no i haven't thought of it like that.
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Postby singingsmiler » Tue May 24, 2005 12:18 pm

I agree with Jenna XXX i think that you are thinking of the past rather than the future.

Just see how things go with you holding back for a while and if nothing changes then you know where you stand and you can move on - but don't make any drastic decisions you may regret - you obviously care about her a lot or you wouldn't be so angry.

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Postby nothings_shocking » Tue May 24, 2005 5:46 pm

but the thing is i have forgiven her for the lies etc and she is still lying to me. Will this continue into the future?
It's just since we have been at college she has beent he girl with the gloating look and the attitude. This is not the person i know.
It just saddens me that people change like this.
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Postby singingsmiler » Wed May 25, 2005 10:19 am

Hey hun,
Unfortunately people do change like this - i can't tell you whether the lies will continue but it's a hard habit for someone to break once they have got into it.

For whatever reason your friend has changed and it is unlikely she will go back to exactly the way she was before - it's hard i know lovely.

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Postby nothings_shocking » Wed May 25, 2005 11:10 am

Well it is today another day of our distant changed friendhsip. Has made no effort to talk to me, i have spoken to her. I think this just proves it means nothing to her.
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Postby singingsmiler » Wed May 25, 2005 11:14 am

If i were you, i would concentrate on the friends who value you. I know this really hurts but you need to make a clean break now because you are getting really upset by her actions.

Sorry hun,
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Postby sparkly_star » Wed May 25, 2005 2:41 pm

Hey,

Hope ur ok. Like singingsmiler says sadly people change sometimes for the worse. It's sad but it happens. As for the friendship, it's obviously causing you alot of upset. Maybe you should leave her alone for a while and see if this changes the way she behaves?

Otherwise as singingsmiler says, it might be that this is one friendship you have to walk away from. It's sad when it happens, believe me, it's happened with me and many of my friends in the past who have treated me badly. I know it's hard to walk away, but in a situation where a friendship has become very one sided, and you're the one making all the effort... it comes to a point where you have to think about yourself and how it's taking it's toll on you.

One last thing, as anyone on here will tell you, her behaviour is nothing to do with who you are as a person.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Postby nothings_shocking » Fri Jun 10, 2005 10:07 pm

Ok i have an update but erm...am going to post when less angry and upset at person
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Postby nothings_shocking » Mon Jun 27, 2005 3:23 pm

yet again has managed to upset me :cry:
what right does she have to do all of this?!
is she out to destroy every part of me? She must be as it is working.
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Postby singingsmiler » Tue Jun 28, 2005 9:18 am

nothings_shocking wrote:yet again has managed to upset me :cry:
what right does she have to do all of this?!
is she out to destroy every part of me? She must be as it is working.
x x x


Hey gorgeous,
Firstly you are great and you need to realise that 'she' does not need to affect your life in such a way.
I would say talk to her but i think it may have gone past that now - you need to just keep her at arms length and make sure that you take what she says/does with a pinch of salt.
If she doesn't appreciate what a great person you are then she doesn't deserve you as a friend.
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Postby nothings_shocking » Tue Jun 28, 2005 9:15 pm

I have thought about it long and hard, no i don't want to throw away our friendship but thta's it gone!
As far as i am concerned things are over, i am turning over a new leaf and that's it out of my life, new person.
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Postby Jess1234 » Tue Jun 28, 2005 9:23 pm

Hey
She doesn't deserve you! Your a FAB person and anyone who doesn't realise that must be mad :wink: !
Chin up and keep smiling!
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Postby nothings_shocking » Tue Jun 28, 2005 9:24 pm

Today has been a good day so chin is up, have a big smile and i have no idea who she is.
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Postby singingsmiler » Wed Jun 29, 2005 8:44 am

well done my lovely =D>
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Postby nothings_shocking » Wed Jun 29, 2005 12:56 pm

singingsmiler wrote:well done my lovely =D>
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Awww thanks SS! you always make me laugh!
I have better things in my life and other things to worry about other then her.
Yes, it is a shame, but things seem to be looking up.
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