I come from quite a "dysfunctional" family and I have been is quite a lot of pain over the last few years because of the total rejection of me by my sister and mother.
My mum has always been disinterested in all 3 of us (myself plus one bro and one sis) and so the fact that she always forgot my birthdays and never called me is pretty much to be expected... I got really angry with her approx 2 years ago for never coming to see me or showing any interest in me - so now she refuses to speak to me at all

Anyway... the most recent problem is concerning my elder sister (She is 33) She got married about 5 years ago and has since had 2 children - she never calls me either btw.
Anyway, I have always wanted to have a close relationship with her so I went to her wedding - paid over $700 for bridesmaid dress and cash loan which she asked me to bring for her on the day (I paid for her bridemaid dress at my wedding) - paid for both.
Long story short she has never paid back the loan she asked me for which is not that big of a deal really except that she has tried to get rid of me too, I went to see her in the hospital after she had her first baby - only to be ignored - seriously IGNORED in the hospital room - I was not even permitted to hold the baby.
When her second baby was born she didn't even bother to ring me and tell me!
In spite of these things I have continued to try - mostly because I wanted to see my nephews...
I called her up to ask if I could come over for a visit - I spoke to her husband who said "it was fine" if I stopped by the next day - I drove 40mins to her house with my young stepdaughters only to have my sister get angry and tell me that I needed to call her first before I came over! She and her husband secreted the new baby away into the back of the house and then proceeded to just chat to eachother in the kitchen - Ignoring me.
I was extremely upset.
I didn't speak to her again - or ever intend to until our younger brother was admitted to hospital and we had to share a car 6 hours to collect him - I did not confront her, and we had a fairly good time on the long drive. (Mum refused to collect our younger brother from the hospital or even speak to him - would have been only a one hour drive for her)
So then I think everything's ok.
So I get her a gift for her birthday a few weeks later and remembering to call ahead go over to see her... I go. And she proceeds to insult me by offering to hook me up with one of her husband's friends - I have been with my current partner as long as she has been with hers and she knows this. Then because I am still trying and want things to be nice so I offer to help her out by cleaning her house ( I should mention I am a professional housecleaner + she works fulltime and has 2 kids under 3) To which her husband pipes up and say really nastily "What do you mean by that b*tch?"
So I am back to not speaking to her again.
Gawd - What do you guys think?
I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about this - I get too upset.
As it stands now I just can't have anything more to do with her - she is like poison.
I think it might be partly due to her husband because with her last boyfriend she and I had a fairly stable relationship.
Any comments would be appreciated. Thanks.