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how do i help my sister

Postby saramidnite » Thu Apr 30, 2009 9:00 am

my sister has always been a liar,
i wont go into detail
i lost a baby a few months later she claiming the same thing.
she came on to my ex bf at one stage and feels the need to centre of attension
it go so bad we didnt even talk for a year.

we have started talking since she dumped her horrid ex
she may be pregant
told me it wasnt his and now i found it will be if she is
she was finally being mature as she is now 20 and needs to grow up at some stage when they broke up
but 7month on she sleeping with him

he dont want to know if she is or not till the june as he got exams
she dont even knoewif he single
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Re: how do i help my sister

Postby dipsydoodlenoodle » Thu Apr 30, 2009 9:15 am

Well first step is she needs to see if she actually is pregnant.
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Re: how do i help my sister

Postby earthchild » Thu Apr 30, 2009 9:46 am

i would encourage her to take time out from guys for a long while and concentrate on herself.
As Dipsy said she needs to find out first if she is pregnant and if she is the next thing she needs to do is think about whether she wants this baby or not.
I also think that she needs counciling, her attention seeking behaviour and the way she is always trying to be you or like you suggests that she has a low self esteem and a few issues she needs to sort out.
Just encourage as much as you can to get professional help and tel her that you will always be there for her.
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Re: how do i help my sister

Postby Bel Bel » Thu Apr 30, 2009 9:49 am

It's difficult hen someone always lies but i would take everything she says with a pinch of salt unless she confirms it's true.

if she is getting attention from lying stop giving her attention when she lies and make a fuss when you know something is true, showing her she can get attention when she tells the truth
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Re: how do i help my sister

Postby saramidnite » Thu Apr 30, 2009 3:35 pm

thank you for the advice
she wont do a test till next week friday
now she is convince it will have an illnes due to his side of the family
it really started to anoy me
i want to help and support her
she was finally started to be honest with me and now the ex is back on the sence and she dont even know if he single
he cheated on her and she wont accept it
she heard him doing certain things with a girl as he accidently called her when it happen

she will be 20 in september
i was happy she was now growing up till this
he dont seam to even care either
she constanly texts me about it, i just recieve another 6 texts
i am not sure what ot say but i will be there for her and to stay any from him till she knows
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Re: how do i help my sister

Postby Bel Bel » Thu Apr 30, 2009 4:00 pm

I THINK YOU SHOULD IGNORE ANY RANDOM TEXTS AND ONLY RESPOND TO REASONABLE ONES (on caps sorry :oops: )
if she asks why you don't respond tell her you can only repeat the same advice so many times, if she keeps asking the same things you can only give the same response
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Re: how do i help my sister

Postby saramidnite » Thu Apr 30, 2009 5:47 pm

thank you for the advice
there is not much more i can do at the moment till she sure weather she is or not
and he said he dont care right now as he got exams
me and my sister have both been treated badly by our own parents
she is worried that her child will be like our dad or like his side of hte family that have mental health problems

i am trying to resure her that i will be a supportive aunty but untill i know for certain what if is or not htere not much more i can do
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Re: how do i help my sister

Postby saramidnite » Sun May 10, 2009 11:03 pm

My sister decided 2 wait another week. She asking me if it normal 2 eat more or certain sytoms. Ive tried telling her to wait tills she knows for certain. She now wants to tell her ex she is pregant before she knows as it will ruin his life. Ive tried telling that she shouldnt. He cheated on her and swears at her. He stil sleeps with once and awhile when he not told her if he even single. Our parents abuse me physicaly and mentaly. I try not to be like them. I dont what her to become twisted like them. She better then them and her ex
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Re: how do i help my sister

Postby snail » Mon Jun 08, 2009 2:07 pm

I don't think there's much more you can do, Sara. Your sister has to make her own decisions. Just don't let it worry you or upset you too much.
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Re: how do i help my sister

Postby saramidnite » Wed Sep 16, 2009 12:59 pm

i cant take it any more
i had enough of my sisters lies

one of my mates who is a really nice guy, kind big hearted, senative and good looking keeps meeting women who hurt him
i new my sister had a nice mate
i was going to try and set them up
my mate seam to be sort of intrested inmy sister after he saw her picture

my sister refuse to introduce him to her mate, but was up for a date with him
i exchanged email add with them both and left them to it

they got on really well
they didnt meet in person yet but emailed, phone and text each other all the time.

the frist time she was ment to meet she cancelled, pretend to be sick as i was sick at he time
the second time she said it puts her off knowing it would be a date and told him a lie in a text to why they couldnt meet

my friend i work with is really gutted im not sure what to do
she been lying to me to about every thing
she admit she was on hoilday with her ex the week she was ment to me my mate, that the month they have been getting to know each other she met a guy and slept with him the day she met him for the past month she still was while chatting my mate up
she dont even fancy the guy she is sleep with

she going away to study and training for work in porthmouth and had to leave on her birthday last sunday really early
her ex turn up before 5am to see her
yet she claimes they are just mates.

i hate the fact she didnt have the gutts to phone my friend and tell him the truth
know one likes her ex as he cheated on her
she keeps cahnging the storuy of when they split
the frist time was last year oct and now it 3months ago.

she not using protecting when slepping around,
she only 20 and wants to get pregant
she is deny it but she always doing pregancy tests
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